Well, usually it's the girl who can't have an orgasm during sex. For me and my girlfriend, I'm a guy, but I can't seem to have an orgasm while having sex with her. She has an orgasm, but I don't. I just don't know why I can't... We can have sex for 40 minutes, and she would have an orgasm during the first 10 minutes, but for me I just can't have one. However, when I masturbate, I can have one... Can anyone tell me what the problem might be and how I can fix it?
2006-11-05 05:37:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Time to see your doctor and ask the same question. He is qualified, trained, and licensed to give medical advice. People on this site are not.
Chow!!
2006-11-05 08:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by No one 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. You may be masturbating too much. Your libido would be lower, as a result, when you attempt intercourse. Try "going without" orgasm for 5 to 7 days (yeah, I mean it !) and see what happens, bro.
2. Your masturbation technique has trained you to require more pressure before ejaculation, than your g/f is giving you. Tell your partner to really train her pelvic floor (eg. the Kegel technique of pretending to start and stop urine flow , while she goes through her day). It will be tighter. If you are using a condom, go for a thinner condom. Make sure that the end has a little "play" (not pulled down) so it can rub against under the head of your penis.
3. Your masturbation technique may be to extend your orgasm for a long , long, period of time, so you have trained your body to hold off. That's called edging. You need to stop doing that.
4. You may feel too much pressure to have an orgasm. Focus more on deep breathing during intercourse or on mental fantasy (3 somes, kinkier sex, etc). Have her talk to you to give you feedback on your manliness, your penis and to use vulgar terms (love your big c**ck/big d**ck, put your c**ck in me, etc. )
5. If you need more stimulation, which some guys do, you will need a few minutes to masturbate before you and she attempt intercourse.
6. Try a new position. The same position over and over is boring.
7. Unresolved arguments between the two of you or sheer boredom with your partner. Do you really love her ? Or are you in it just for the sex ? Sex is the apex of the communication chain. If you haven't been friends for awhile, maybe it's time for a change.
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2006-11-05 05:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is almost certainly psychological! You may be subconsciously worrying about getting your partner pregnant, or you may have some form of guilt complex about having sex at all. Relax and enjoy the sex, do NOT masturbate betweentimes and you will certainly orgasm during sex eventually.
2006-11-05 21:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ejaculation can be considered premature when it occurs 30 seconds to 4 minutes into sex, depending on different cultures, countries and experts. Behavioural techniques can help you delay orgasm. Learn here https://tr.im/W6Sbc
These include the start-and-stop method and the squeeze technique. A combination of these techniques along with sexual counselling and medication (either using an anaesthetic cream or an oral tablet) is recommended.
2016-02-14 17:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Claris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to share sex you too while having it with your g/f.
Libido decreases with age and when old some man reaches orgasm later and with difficulty.
Remember: "the brain is the most important sexual organ."
2006-11-05 06:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-13 02:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're dull or concentrating way too ******* much on getting off! sex is about love and fun. concentrate on how youre satisfying her! really concentrate and listen to her moan. how can you not get off to having probably some sexy sweet girl and her gorgeous ***** wrapped around your ****. if i was a guy i'd have trouble from gettin off too soon!
go to the store and buy the biggest bag of m&ms (peanutless) you can find.
go home and masturbate.
10 minutes later get your gf on your bed.
slowly undress her. keep your clothes on
get the bag of m&ms and place them all over her body while feeding her a few.
all the while talk dirty to her.
the hornier she gets, the hotter she'll get and the m&ms will melt.
after she's covered in the chocolate mess, undress.
tease her ***** with the head of your **** until she begs for you.
then go deep inside of her slowly.
then stop.
then go in again.
lick as much of the chocolate off of her as you wish. then shove your **** in her again. go very very slowly. speed up gradually as she begs for it.
2006-11-05 08:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV) defines premature ejaculation as a persistent or recurrent ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before, on or shortly after penetration and before a person wishes. Wow, that’s not a sexy definition. Personally, I define it as you come quicker than you or your partner wants. Luckly this is a great solution for premature ejaculation https://tr.im/770b8
2015-01-25 03:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your gf preform oral sex on you ..?
Suggest trying other means of arousal with your girlfriend other than intercourse.
Are you on any type of high blood pressure medication. Or any meds? If so, consult your Dr. about this problem.
2006-11-05 16:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Another item to consider: If you are taking anti-depressant medication, you may have delayed orgasm.
2006-11-05 07:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by hand solo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋