I have been with my fiance for 5 years, no wedding date set yet. I feel like I fell out of love and lost that desire over the past year. I just don't even have the heart to get married with me feeling this way. What do I do? I feel so bad to hurt my fiance but I just can't keep hiding my feelings forever. Your advice would be greatly respected.
2006-11-05 05:20:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do BOTH of you a favor and end this immediately. It is doing a disservice to the both of you to continue living a lie. You deserve better, and so does he. Tell him the truth, and go your separate ways. Good Luck!!
2006-11-05 05:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 13:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't EVER marry this person feeling the way you do! You would regret it!
It isn't doing your Fiance any favor by HIDING your feelings! He has a right to know how you feel so that he can get over your relationship and move on! 5 years is a long time to know how you would feel for life!
I feel that you already know your answer!!!!!!
Really, when you tell your Beau how you feel, you will be glad you did! There are times when we have to put ourselves first, despite what ever feelings you want to spare of the other's in fear of hurting them!!! But, you will save the man alot of heartache by telling him now! He'll respect you for it too!
Who knows, maybe he has reservations too!
I'd talk it out before you set ANY date, ok?
Please, do this for YOU and the man if you care at all!
Keep me posted!
2006-11-05 05:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk it out with your fiance. Does he/she know how you feel? You owe it to them to tell them how you are feeling. How long have you felt this way? Maybe you have just hit a point of normalcy. All relationships hit that point eventually. Keep your chin up and discuss it with them. If the two of you cannot find a solution them discuss calling it quits. You both need to make the choice together, don't make any decisions without talking it through first. You might find that they feel the same way.
Good Luck!
2006-11-05 05:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how it is in alot of relationships.It usually doesn't hit until the 7th yr. You need to start over with her.Ask her out on dates,tell her that she needs to help get this relationship back on the right track. Talk to her and tell her what is going on with u. If u both work at it u can get that flame back.But u both need to know whats going on. She can get alittle more sexier in the bedroom and u can think of different things to do with her. Go to different places and have fun.Your just in the rut to where u do the same thing everyday. Good luck
2006-11-05 05:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny thing, this just happen to me. I felt that way for a while and finally did something about it. If this is the way you feel there is nothing wrong with you, but I finally broke it off becuase it isn't fare to ethier of us. I was with her for a very long time, with no date as well. Its sucks at first because you loss that confort of having someone around but am (and she) are completly better off now. We tired consuling too, but to be honest you can always love someone and still not be in love with them anymore. My advice is to go with what you feel, if it over you guys may have just grown apart (sounds lame but is ture). Its always better to loss to the turth then to win by lies.
2006-11-05 05:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by mickeys12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something Specially
For You
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-11-05 05:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a vacation together! You probably need some real alone time. Somewhere out of state. So you guys can see if you can rekindle your love. If you really really feel that you are out of love with him and you don't want to try to work things out then just break it off with him.
2006-11-05 05:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
end it now. just because you have future plans to get married doesn't mean you have to do it. especially if you already feel like it is over. if you go ahead with the marriage you will just cause you and he/she a lot of unnecessary pain. AND it will cost you a TON of money when you get a divorce.
2006-11-05 05:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you should do it be honest and end the relationship. What you will probably do, however, is what most guys do in these situations: act like a jerk until she ends it with you.
2006-11-05 05:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋