My husband has looked at porn and I confronted him about it, he was very upset with me for snooping but he promised he would stop. Our relationship was good for awhile but now he looks , not on porn sites but on other sites and the stuff he looks at is disgusting. He also has a Yahoo personal. It was made while were married. what do i do?
2006-11-05 04:54:47 · 23 answers · asked by jahottie8706 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with berry picker
2006-11-05 04:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My ex husband was the same way. If he just wanted to look at porn he didn't have to put out an ad. He is thinking about having an affair, or at least drama free sex with no strings attached. I would confront him, he will either admit he has a problem & work together to keep your marriage together, or like my ex, continue to deny he has a problem , stop for a little while, then start up again. I gave him many opportunities to get his act together. He finally admited he had a problem but it was too late to trust him again. Even now he is still visiting those porn, swinging sex sites & quoting God to me. He has to be the one to stop. You can't make him if he doesn't want to. You have to decide if you are willing to put up with his disrespect for you & your marriage. Some women can. I couldn't. he was making me suffer & unhappy. I realized I deserved to be happy & have a faithful loving man in my life. I hope you find your way. You are worthy of happiness.
2006-11-05 20:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Berry Picker is right. It's going to be hard not to say anything to him but it will much better if you make a date with him, he won't know it's you until he gets there. Make sure you have copies of what he has been doing on the computer. Think the personal ad, have more then one copy also. What an a** he is. Good luck and God Bless
2006-11-05 15:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about you at all...know this. Porn can be an addictive. It destroys lives & marriages. It has a cycle that drags you to the pit of hell. Your husband is playing with fire. If he doesn't admit to his problem & get help I'm afraid your marriage is doomed.
Just read the above post from Jessica...this is wrong, rude thinking. His porn viewing has NO relation to you. She needs to get educated in porn, she's ignorant.
2006-11-05 13:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask your husband if he would be willing to go into counseling. I know that I would feel offended and hurt if my husband did that. Confront him and ask him why he would advertise himself as single. Try and find out how he views marriage and commitment. If his view differs too much from your own and he refuses to go to counseling then you have two choices: put up with it or talk to a good lawyer.
2006-11-05 14:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by ecp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer the personal ad, disguising yourself as a slutty interest of his. Arrange a meeting and confront him once more. If he continues after that, divorce him.
2006-11-06 00:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone else is on the right track. Answer the ad. Nothing like catching someone red - handed to make them either wake up or give you the wake up call you need.
2006-11-05 13:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me as if you have a loser there. He will never stop doing the things that are always going to drive you crazy. The best thing for you to do, while it's as early as it is, is to leave him. If and when he wants a marriage, then discuss it......but not until he grows up...and WANTS to be married!
2006-11-05 12:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good luck sounds like a losing battle way before it began. With any luck and lots of praying, counseling and a new outlook together, you could salvage what is supposed to be a marriage....
2006-11-05 12:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by silhouette 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's "wookin pah nub" in all the wong pwaces.
I think you might want to go to a counselor or something on this one. I have a friend that went through that crap. She's to the point that she just endures it. I think she needs to dump him and get a good life that she deserves.
2006-11-05 13:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kings Child 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my husband, too! And he had some on "adult" sites as well.
Print up the Personal's ad, make copies of it and keep them in safe places so that if he denies doing it, you have proof and can show his family when they get fed lies from him.
2006-11-05 12:57:54 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋