We've been married 4.5 years, have an almost 3 year old, and I desperately want to be pregant again. I'm almost 30, and I want two more kids before I'm done. My husband's insecure about our financial situation, but I'm confident it will turn around in the next 6 months (we own two businesses). I know it's wrong to trick, I know we should be in agreement about kids, but I think he's being unreasonable. Our first son was an accident, and I want to have another 'accident'. If I push him on the issue, he WILL submit and let me get pregnant, I'm pretty sure. However, I know he'll hold this child over me if there is a medical issue, a behavioral issue, etc. Like "He/she was your idea, I never wanted them in the first place, this is your fault" type of thing. So, I don't want to push it, I just want to have another 'accident'. Thoughts on this? Please don't be mean to me:).
We use rhythm/pull out birth control. 'Tricking' would mean I would tell him it is safe to *** inside me.
2006-11-05 04:29:42 · 5 answers · asked by Margie 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm pretty sure by the time my huband might be secure about another baby is when I'm too old to be having them. He was freaked out when I got pregnant with our first, but we have adjusted just fine and he's been the best thing in our life. Both of us love the snot out of him. I know that will be the case with the second if it's an 'accident'.
2006-11-05 04:41:52 · update #1
Just try really hard to reason with him. You still have time. I will be 30 by the time I have my first. I'm giving myself between ages 35-40 to be done with having my kids. I have known several people who have had healthy babies at these ages. It is not good for your relationship to be "tricking" him. Be honest and upfront and persuade him to agree. Try to help with the financial situation, so he can feel more confident that it is a good idea.
2006-11-05 04:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by P G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have yet to trick anyone into gettting pregnant but i say you're in a stable relationship and if it is going good then i don't think you're in for any trouble if you do accidently get pregnant. When you really look at the situations out there probably umm...almost 90% of the people out there are not financially ready for a child but it happens everyday and they survive so go for it girly
2006-11-05 04:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DONT trick him into having a baby. That is just wrong. I understand that you want a baby but it is not fair to trick your husband when he feels you are not financially ready. My husband and I want a baby very bad BUT we know we are not financially ready and just the thought of tricking my husband creeps me out. He has the right to feel how he feels and it sounds to me like he just wants to be able to provide the baby with a good life. I am not trying to be mean but you need to sit down and talk with him and have a goal set to where, when that goal is accomplished you can start trying for one. good luck!!
2006-11-05 05:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweet2006 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-21 07:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't trick him, that is very mean and he will resent you for it and your marriage will suffer. Just sit down with him and have a heart to heart with him. I am sure after you talk it out you can come to some sort of plan.
2006-11-05 05:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋