We have been married since last 10 years and now relationship has become boring. Then this fellow came in my life , he is very caring and handsome, even his little touch excites me. Is it okay to express my love? I have always been honest to my husband. Should I cheat this time?
2006-11-05 04:15:58 · 57 answers · asked by honey d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. No. N-O NO! Other answerers also tell you not to cheat and that's correct. Once a cheat, always a cheat. It would even give your "new" lover something to hold over you! You could not only destroy a marriage, but also a friendship! I've been married a LONG time. My wife & I have each had such thoughts. But, believe me, if you share this with each other in the RIGHT WAY, your marriage will be anything but boring!
I think most guys are so vain (o.k., I am) that they never think their woman could desire another man. I also know some mentally disturbed types are so possessive they would kill a woman rather than share her. But (I hope) those are in the tiny minority. You should know your husband well enough to know how to discuss this with him. If you've never yet discussed anything sexual with him, don't start with your thoughts about another man! However, if you work up to it gradually and let him know that caring, touching and even sex is important to you, it could improve your marriage. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
But in any case, BE TRUTHFUL with your husband, and with yourself. Is it really the friend who is so attractive, or just that your current man has lost his attraction? You have to try to talk to him about. You might be surprised by the results. Another answerer, Kaustaub, says much the same thing.
If the whole thing is sexual fantasy, your husband might share it with you. Or maybe he has his own fantasies! You might like to discuss that with him.
2006-11-05 07:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by David A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it will cause a lot more problems than you can possibly foresee. It's also just plain wrong. What you should do is sit down with your husband and explain that things don't feel right any more (don't accuse, there are 2 of you in the relationship so it's a joint problem. ) Accept your own part in this breakdown and suggest counselling. There is never justification for an affair. Stop seeing this other man AT ALL no matter how hard that is, you owe it to your marriage to get him out of your life. If your marriage should still fail, and you get divorced, then see if your feelings for him are still there.
2006-11-05 05:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by good tree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I dont know if kids are involved but either way you definately should not. It will make you feel awful, deceitful and dishonest, dont put yourself through that. What you should do is tell the guy you like his company but that you cannot be anything but friends. If he is a true friend of your husband and feels anything for you he will understand. Then you should talk to your husband and say how you feel, that you think the relationship is boring. You might find he feels the same and you can work things out together. You can both suggest changes you would like in your relationship to make it less boring and bring life into the marriage. Anything you feel for the other guy is just because your marriage is making you unhappy and you are jumping at the first bloke that shows interest.
If things dont work out with your husband then you can look for new relationships guilt free. But I would advise not to go near your husbands friend at anytime, to reduce the hurt to your husband and complications!
2006-11-05 04:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have just come to a place in your marriage that is routine. Because you are bored doesn't mean you don't love him, does it? The excitement of something new is really what you're attracted to. The newness with the friend will eventually wear off too. Then what will you have? Two relationships that aren't worth a hill of beans.
Talk to your husband, tell him you're bored and you want to do some different, more spontaneous things. He might feel the same way.
2006-11-05 04:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sara Lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the agency that issued the loan. If it was not due, then she should not have to begin payment yet. Apply for scholarships. If she cannot afford a university, go to a junior or community college. Earning straight A's there will open up many opportunities for scholarships. It is best to begin this way anyway since it is less expensive and covers basics. Majors are usually not declared until the junior year at university. As long as the AA has been earned, the university usually cannot declare the transfer student deficient and make her take additional classes. How about work study? How about a part-time job? Time will pass anyway, as long as she plugs away at her degree, she will eventually earn it. Take less classes and work full time if necessary. Her mother cannot opt out of a loan she cosigned. If it is not paid, both of them will suffer credit problems and be subject to garnishment on any job they work unless arrangements are made to pay off the loan. Good luck to your friend.
2016-05-22 01:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I hate it when people use the excuse that a relationship is boring, or the "spark is gone" as a reason to cheat. That happens in every relationship if you don't work on it. It will happen with this guy too because apparently you are lazy about relationships and you can't be trusted. I would say work on the relationship you have cause if you don't fix you the next one won't be any better.
2006-11-05 04:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dont do it. Work on the marriage first - make an effort to get the spark back - if its boring then you are as much to blame as your husband. What makes you think the grass will be greener with another man?? A few months in and you could end up worse off. If you're gonna cheat dont be so insulting as to do it with your mans friend - ask any guy and they'll tell you that is such a low thing to do. xx
2006-11-05 04:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never the answer. If things are that bad get a divorce then go for something new. The thing to remember is that the grass is not always greener on the other side. If your marriage has become boring take it upon yourself to make it a little more exciting.
2006-11-05 04:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't do it!! You'll end up on some Jerry Springer episode. No really. I wouldn't do that it's not worth it. Just because your relationship is sour now doesn't mean you should be out there doing whatever with your husbands friend. Talk your husband tell him your bored try to spice up your relationship if that doesn't work I would seek help and if that doesn't help tell him that you need to more on. Cheating is not a good look especially if it's your husband friend.
2006-11-05 04:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've always been honest with your husband, then why do you think you should lie to him now? If you really feel that you like the other guy, tell your husband, talk about it to him, get a divorce, whatever...there's never an excuse for cheating.
2006-11-05 04:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by LTD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋