i met my friend 3 months ago or so and she use to be round all the time, which i didnt mind but sometime she was taking adavantage then she was always expecting food etc but anyway she has started making new friends and has a boyfriend and now she only comes when she cant stay at theres and also last night she rang at 1am saying she needed somewhere to stay i said she could stay and waited up and she never turned up, but txt today saying how u doing. what would u do?
2006-11-05 04:04:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Call her. Find out what happened last night. Ask her why she needed somewhere to stay, and why she didn't turn up. Ask her out of interest, not to have a go. Sounds like she might be going through a bit of a rough patch. If what happened to her last night was nothing bad, you could tentatively mention how you waited up for her, and was worried, and felt like a spare part. Ask if she could consider your feelings more in the future.
2006-11-05 05:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't a friend. Friends don't do that to each other. Yes we rely on our friends when we are in need but has she ever been there for you? Or shown that she is capable of thinking of anyone else but herself?
I just think you need to forget about her and tell her to find someone else to sponge off of because it's not fair.
Tell her everything you've just said here and she'll have no comeback.
Life is to short to be someone else's fallback option!
2006-11-05 12:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should call her up or meeting her in person would be better and just tell her.
tell her that you always though of her as a good friend but now all it's been is that you use me more them you talk to me and i dont appreciate it. tell her that you dont feel she sees you as a friend anymore but as someone to take advantage of when the opurtunity occurs. just be honest and she can get the hint.
If not then ditch her and lert her know you are not the person to walk all over anymore that she needs to find someone else to use and take advantage of
2006-11-05 12:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is serious because she probably doesn't do it intentionally but if she is either way you have to sit down and talk to her about it. Do it in a way where she wont get offended, but in way that u get your point across and tell her how it makes u feel the most worst feeling is knowing that your being taken advantage of. trust me i know how it feels good luck with your friend
2006-11-05 12:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by WeFlyHigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had years of insincere friends who use people to get something, be brave and walk away, as you get older you lose friends but the ones you are left with are the real ones, ask yourself, would you treat her like that? If the answer is no then its time to shab her on.
2006-11-05 12:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only known her a short time, if you were going out with someone this amount of time and they were like that, you'd surely dump him/her! I would dump her too and make a new friend who's nicer to you. I wouldn't bother ever calling/txting her again - just cut her out! If she calls again wanting to stay, just tell her you've moved!!
2006-11-05 12:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making yourself unavailable for a few times and suggest meeting her when it suits you and not necessarily her. See how she reacts. If she's purely only using you, tell her to grow up and get herself sorted. Surely you don't need "friends" like that?
2006-11-05 12:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think thats totally wrong of her its not ur responcibility 2 take care of her i know how it feels ihad a friend like that once 2 i think you should tell her how u feel, if she is a real friend she'll understand and if she doesnt then you should just go on a and 4get about it
good luck with everything
2006-11-05 12:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by n i c o l e <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask what the hell she is playing at. it sounds to me like she is using you, like a safety net if all else fails and knows that you will probably always say yes. Don't let this person rule your life or it will make you unhappy and lonely, tell her you have a life too...
2006-11-05 12:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her in let her sleep with you start with some light touching and caressing start kissing her neck then down to her belly remove her panties and go downtown she'll either run out and never bother you again or you have a new "best" friend
2006-11-05 12:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by rectal itch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋