im 18 and I had a baby 6 months ago, im with someone new now and.....?

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im 18 and I had a baby 6 months ago, im with someone new now and.....?
We have been having protected sex, With a condom, but no birth control, (past blood clot) and I think I may be pregnant again, I dont believe in abortion, and I dont want my family to look at me wrong, because Im grown I can have sex when I want, I just dont think its fair that I have protected sex and still get pregnant. Do you guys think my family will judge me or support me. What would you in your own opinion do , judge or support?

Answer 1

I'd have to say I judge. Your focus and energies should be on your growing baby, not a new relationship. You should not be engaging in a new romantic relationship while your baby is so young. They are hard enough as it is!

That's great you were protecting yourself, I'm really sorry to hear it didn't work out. It's not fair. I admire you for not believing in abortion. Do you believe in adoption?

Is your family taking care of you? Are they providing the home, food, supplies, caretaking support? You should repay them by giving your baby YOU. When your baby was born, you made the choice that your life was not your own anymore, it was your childs.

Yes, you can have sex when you want, but just because you have the freedom to do it does not mean you should take advantage of it. You are only 18. You are YOUNG. You SHOULD be all about boys and dating and care free and imagining what your future could hold for you. Once you decided to be a mom to this new life, you decided to be a MOM. Be that, and stay away from boys for a while. Be close to your family, and be there emotionally and physically for your baby.

If you are pregnant, and you decide to be a mom to this one too, be it. I would suggest adoption to make life better for the baby, for you, for your one already here, and your family.

My heart goes out to you! Good luck!

Answer 2

I know how you feel b/c im sorta in the same situation as you. I just had a baby 5 months ago and my fiancee and I are using just condoms but no birth control and I think i may be pregnant too. Well all you can do if you are dont let it bother you its your life and remind them that its your life. Also if your family loves you they will support you 100%. for the rest of the people that have been answering your questions they dont know what they are talking about telling you to get your tubes tied you can't when your 18 unless you have 4 or more kids and you cant get that done at some hospitals

Answer 3

having sex with A condom does not guarantee not getting pregnant , there is always the chance of the condom ripping from friction. there is a possibly you can be pregnant. the SAFEST SEX IS NO SEX!But you feel your an adult your family will look at you as an adult. Good Luck and i would judge you based on the past experience if you did not want another child, you should have been the better person and said i'm not ready to go this far and not ready to bring another child in this, remeber the children suffer more than you do :(

Answer 4

I am sure if you r family loves you (and I am sure they do) They will be supportive of you......They may be very disappointed in you and it may take them a while to come to grips with you having another baby.
If you are supporting your self and your first child I see nothing wrong with it....However if you can not support yourself or the first child I really don't know why you would want to continue bringing children into that situation. Children deserve so much better than that. You should wait and have children when you are financially and emotionally ready for them.
There is always adoption too.

Answer 5

I would initially be judgemental, for a little while, then get over it and start supporting you and baby number two. It's good to hear you won't abort, no matter- I told my pro choice ex if I ever get pregnant we would have a baby. lol. Have you considered adoption? Do you know someone close to you who maybe would want a baby? May God provide for you and your family whether you keep it or not. Good luck, but you sound like a strong woman already.

Answer 6

Yes, even if they dont show it, they will be a little judgmental...but if they love you they will get over it again. But, your young, are you financially stable enough to continue having children? Its very difficult to be a mother of 2 new borns.
You know, there are other forms of birth control other than the pill. Have you thought about the IUD? I reccomend the regular copper (its not the one with hormones, Mirina). Internationally, it outbeats the pill and is 99.9 percent reliable. You dont forget to take anything, you just do monthly self exams. I dont know why women wont bother with one.

Answer 7

well i wouldn't stress about it until you are for sure that you are pregnant. If you are, I would tell your family that you did have protected sex and you are really counting on their support. of course they will judge you, and you should acknowledge that. tell them that you know they are going to judge, but at this peroid in your life you don't need to be hearing what they think of you right now. their support is crucial to you having a healthy pregnancy and delivery as well as raising the child. don't worry about what they think...if you know they're thinking bad things about you do everything in your power to prove their judgements wrong. don't dwell on what happened or what people think, all that matters is what you and your boyfriend think and do.

Answer 8

if ur family really loves u, then they will support u. i am sure if they supported u through the first one, then they will do the same with this one. are u ready and stable to have another child? if u r then they should look at u as being responsible. i agree with u that abortin is wrong and so by having this other cjild, u r showing ur previous child and ur family u r more than willing to take responsibilty for another.

Good luck!!!

Answer 9

I was the oldest of 4 kids - my mom had my sister when I was 18 months old - I was very needy at this time and hate babies to this day I am sure becuase of her having 2 kids so close together...
just because a person gets pregnant doesnt mean they should
do you own your own home? are you married? will you get your tubes tied before it happens again?

I guess.. judge is the answer..

Answer 10

You're an adult. You know the risks involved with having pre-marital sex and continue to do so. Your family might not be so happy about it and may judge you to a certain extent but hopefully they'll help you as well. Good luck.