My son's father and I were involved for two years and have not been together for about 6 years. I am now involved with someone else and he is remarried.
He always has and still "flirts" with me when neither of our partners is around, this is only when dropping off or picking up our son. Examples of this "flirting" is kicking me in the butt (silly I know) and will pick on me in a playful way. He definitely acts differently when it's just me and him when we're dropping off our son. When we talk on the phone, because of our son...if his wife isn't around I can tell because he'll talk to me about other things going on with him and if she is there he just says what he needs to and gets off the phone. We all get along pretty well, his wife, me, him and my partner so why is he acting this way? He always has, he went over to Iraq sometime ago before he married and I was involved and he wanted me to send him "pictures" of me.
What is he thinking??????
2006-11-05 03:54:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex that I had my daughters with did the same thing to me after we divorced and I was with my new husband. It made me very uncomfortable as well. You were married to this guy and had children with him and should be able to talk to him about this issue. You need to let him know that you two are not together for a reason and that you don't think of him in that way anymore. Anytime he starts flirting with you, you need to just walk away without a word and not entertain any of it. You putting a quick end to his flirtatious ways should give him the hint. He probably still has feelings for you and over a period of time, it should start to diminish. If you entertain any of this, he will only do it longer. My new husband had to kind of take matters into his own hands and had a talk with my ex and told him that he really should back off or else. Good luck with this! I know what a pain it can be!
2006-11-05 04:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things here: one, he stopped growing emotionally when you two became a couple....it happens with drug/alcohol addict behaviour and it happens when two people come together...seen it a thousand times, a couple breaks up and the girl is 30 and she acts like she's 17 because they met in high school or what have you....it can happen either way. two, he doesn't respect your relationship which is troubling because there is a child involved and a male one at that. troubling because (and you know this) the boy is taking emotional and mental notes of his father each time you're all around together. You need to sit down with him and tell him that his behaviour is inappropriate and you'd like him to read "this." And this can be a short book you find under this subject at the book store....or even a magazine article. If you go to the library the librarian will help you with searching on the computer. good luck
2006-11-05 12:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants his cake and to eat it too. Go on with your life and tell him you are both involved. Or if it makes you feel better than hey a little flirting never hurts when it is you know where you belong and that is with your mate now, dont get your hopes up with the ex. and dont get mad if your mate flirts alittle too. You can look at the package, but you cant open it. lol Good Luck and dont let your ex ruin what you have with your boyfriend now.
2006-11-05 11:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A part of him still feels the closeness you once had. Alot of people naturally keep an affection for those they once loved.
Inappropriate for him to actually show it and I think you should kindly tell him this. You have a kid together and are going to be bound for life by this. Best you become strong allies with clear borders.
2006-11-05 12:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still attracted to you and it will feed his ego if you're still attracted to him. He would probably cheat on his wife with you. I'm sure you broke up for a reason. Tell him you're flattered that he is still attracted to you, but no way will anything happen. Unless you still want to be with him, which is a different question.
2006-11-05 11:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to ruin a good thing.....both yours, and HIS! Conduct the business with him that you have to concerning your son, and don't be flirting with him. Once business is conducted, then you need to be suddenly BUSY! This flirting can only lead to disaster if you continue, or allow him to continue. Good Luck!!
2006-11-05 12:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar situation with my stbx wife and her first husband. Looking for a little that is safe on the side that is all.
2006-11-05 12:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's thinking that as a long as you let him get by with this, you still want him. Set him straight, it's way past time.
2006-11-05 12:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the two of you have a child together. you are always going to have a soft spot in his heart even if he doesnt say so. his actions and "requests" all are just him remembering the good times.
2006-11-05 11:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by cr4is2py0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he stills thinks of u and wants u back
2006-11-05 11:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by pretty_face_2011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋