how would you tell a person effectively that he/she is not included in your future plans?

Question

if the person keeps on insisting himself/herself in your life regardless of what you say?

Answer 1

Frankly and openly - there is no future for us. Forget it.

Answer 2

You place them in a line with six other people that you HAVE included in your plans, then you say.."Everybody who is going on our trip take one step forward".

When the person you don't want to have go gets ready to step forward you hold their head back and say....

"errrt... Not so fast"!

Problem solved and no feelings get hurt.

Answer 3

Just be honest. Everybody can't take a hint or read between the lines. Just sit them down and let them know how you feel. You can't worry about hurting their feelings because their feeling will be hurt alot more if you string them along.

Answer 4

You seem eloquent enough to express yourself clearly. Once that's done, you simply have to (as inconvenient and unfair as it is) eliminate the ways they can invade your life. Don't answer when they call; don't read or answer emails; don't open the door when they come by; and so forth.

Answer 5

I just put them in my plans and deal with it or come up with a little white lie

Answer 6

Just sit them down and tell them how you feel. Don't let them think things are ok when your not feeling the same as they are.

Answer 7

Buy a sign that reads "No solicitors, (Fill in the Name) this means you" and put it on your front door.

Answer 8

uh, I'd probably got get a harrassment order and let the judge tell him.

Answer 9

""I don't want you in my life now or in the future.Best of luck to you.Bye."