What is marriage really like?

Question

I am engaged right now and I just want to know from REAL married couples what marriage is really like.

Answer 1

I've been married for 17 years. We've had good, bad, sad, exciting, boring, miserable and fantastic times together. Communication is the key. Love each other, treat each other with respect. You'll have arguments, and you'll have romantic evenings in front of the fire. When times get rough, don't blame each other for the rough times, use each other to get out of the hard times. Don't call each other names. Don't be smart-elec in a fight, just state your feelings. Don't DENY each other, especially after a fight. That's the best way to make up. When you have children, don't undermind your spouse. If your spouse has already stated the punishment and you don't like it, don't go against them, discuss it in private, then if the punishment was wrong, let that parent change it with the child. Don't fight in public. Don't fight in front of your child, it's okay to have a friendly disagreement in front of the child, that way your child isn't shocked when they get married and have their first fight. Spoil each other. Cuddle on the couch. Go on a date with each other at least once a month, romantic, candlelight. Go to amusement parks and act like a kid once in a while. Have fun. Enjoy each other. Like I said, I've been married for 17 years and we have 2 wonderful children. We have a blast together.

Answer 2

Marriage is hard work, but very rewarding. It takes strength of character, and dedication to make a marriage work.

You will learn more about yourself with someone than alone, that is why the first years of marriage are so difficult. Not only are you learning how to interact with the same person 24/7 but you are learning how to find personal time with someone else in the house. There is very little "I" and a ton of "We" in marriage. Its a total change in the thought process.

I have 4 Rules in marriage: (these are deal breakers - anything else can be worked through)
1. NO Hitting (physical and/or emotional)
2. NO Lying (very little white lies are acceptable) (Example: Have you seen this movie? No, I haven't.)
3. No Stealing (Example: You buy that $500 hand bag even though the rent hasn't been paid yet)
4. NO Cheating (physical and/or emotional)

Good rule of thumb in marriage: Would you do something with your spouse looking right over your shoulder? If not, don't do it. If so, have a good time.
(Example: An Ex wants to take you to dinner? What would you do?
Personally I would ask if Ex was available for lunch instead, call my Husband to tell him where I was and what I was doing, then have a nice lunch (pay dutch), go home alone, and when Husband got home tell him how much that the lunch reminded me that I am glad I'm married to him and not the Ex.)

Answer 3

Comfortable... and nice... if you know that you are with the right person!
It's not exciting, and the warm fuzzy lusty feeling does fade, so be prepared.
It's nice to know someone is on your side, and with you as a partner. Someone to come home to, to laugh with, to experience life with.
My advice to all engaged couples is to read: "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" together.
The best marriage book ever in my opinion. Really crucial that you read before getting married, so you have a better understanding of mens/couples needs and how to make it a happy life together.
Also, get involved with a good church group for newly marrieds. It will help you through that first two years, which can be a bit of an adjustment period.
I wish you a blessed life together!

Answer 4

Marriage is the relation that completes the pair between a man and a woman. Since it's a pair, you get the idea. Nothing in a married person's life works on a single channel. Life is stereo and it works better as long as both the channels are working efficiently and in conjunction with each other. There will be ups and downs but in the end, two are always better than one, be optimistic and problems will soon be over. Marriage is a beautiful relation, its just some people who make it look terrible and unwanting.

Answer 5

Well in order to get the full picture you have to start by realising that 3/4 of marriages end in divorce, so my first suggestion is using caution and time to decide if this is the right decision. Engagement is the time you take to think it through all the way !

On that front, you really cant be "told" what marriage is. To me it's a leap of faith into the arms of the one you hope fulfills your ideals and morals. But it is clearly a leap of faith no matter what. There is no marriage that is the same. Impossible. Good marriage is in the eyes of the beholder.

As for what is daily life like in a marriage? Well you share a lot you didnt use to. You learn to figure out the other persons quirks, likes, and dislikes and slowly integrate theirs into yours.

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Answer 6

Being married is being with a family. You go through good times, bad times, sometimes you hate them, sometimes, you love them so much. Good or bad, over time, you develop understanding and love for the other person in a deeper level. You get to be yourself as well. But when there is conflict that is not being solved, it is really painful. The happiness outweighs the bad times and it was always good knowing I had someone to go home to. Marriage certainly needs a lot of work! Patience and compromise. I loved being married. Succeed or not, I am for marriage!

Answer 7

I am married to my best friend really... And I will also tell you that marriage is a lot of work... But, so very worth it when it is with the right person... There are times when I have to give more and times when he gives more... It is two souls connecting as one and learning to look at life in a realistic way knowing nothing or no one is ever perfect all of the time...
I love him inside and out... I love him when we fight and get to make up! It makes for great ***!
If you go into it knowing and expecting things to be up and down much like a roller coaster ride, you will find humor in looking back at what was difficult at one time but brings much laughter later on... ♥
Give each other space, and time to still grow, as individuals which will allow you to crave time spent intoxicated with each others company... ♥
Take lots of deep breaths and hold on tight for the ride! Best wishes to both of you!

Answer 8

Marriage is just like any other relationship you've had. It has it's up and downs. It can be wonderful and heartbreaking. A lot of people feel more secure with one another when they have the commitment of marriage.I've been married twice. And even though they were complete failures. I haven't given up on the idea of being married again someday.
Even though I have been in committed relationships without any talk of marriage. I still entertain the idea of being married again someday. Congratulation to you and Good Luck.

Answer 9

Marriage is like a stepping stone...now you are trying to get to know him as a husband/wife...sometimes its easy and hard for others...but if you both have this love for each other and are comfortable in waking up every morning next to that person for the rest of your life and if you see urself happy and knowing that no matter what happens you are there for one another...then the marriage is goin to work...marriage is not perfect and you gonna go thru your rought times, but if you have that understanding for one another then its going ot be fine...Congrads and hope you live happily with the one you love.

Answer 10

Marriage is what you make it. There are good times and bad, you have to stick together through the bad ones and the good ones will be a piece of cake. I have been married for 40 years and don't regret one moment of it. Marriage is like a job, you have to work at it. It's really a wonderful adventure. Good luck to you.