My gf sudenly wants to leave me after almost 3 years together.. She said that she have to fight for attention with my family and my work. She said that she is tired being second to my family.... She felt neglected just because i had to go visiting with my parents for the festive season.
2006-11-05 02:51:19 · 10 answers · asked by Junk M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say it is a lot more than just the festive season. She feels ignored. The number one reason relationships break up. When you were dating you made a conscious effort to please her and let her know she is number one. Now, three years later, the relationship is taken for granted. She feels like a second fiddle to everything else in your life. A woman needs to feel she is being woo'd all the time. We need it like we need air. It gives us incentive to pretty ourselves up. It makes us feel sexy and desirable. It reminds us of our feminine side. Without it, we shrivel up and shut off.
You will be suprised, if you start wooing her again, things will start to change for the better. Is it too much effort to go into the bathroom while she is bathing and wash her back for her? If she is stuck on the phone to bring her coffee cup that is across the room to her? To casually mention that you love the curve of her back? To come up behind her when she is washing the dishes and slip your arms around her and kiss her neck? Or pick up a rose when you stop at the grocery for a few things?
We all get complacent in our relationships and when the little things start being considered an inconvenience then the ardour goes out and the feelings start to die a natural death.
If you start to give her quality attention, you will find that she really doesn't mind the amount of time you also give to your family.
2006-11-05 03:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to spend more time with you because she loves you! Why couldn't you have included her in the festive season? Seems to me that you ARE putting her on the back burner. It appears all she wants is some of your attention, to prove to her that you at least give a crap about her. If you spend all of your time either with your family or are working, where is the time for her? It's called "YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT"!!!!! If you feel you need to spend every 5 free minutes with your family, then you shouldn't be in this relationship until you learn to cut those apron strings a little. Sorry man, but you're blowing it here!!!
2006-11-05 11:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jillybeanyweiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be compromise in any relationship. People need to feel wanted by the one they love. She shouldn't have to fight for attention. She needs to be included in festive activities. Try a little harder to show her you care.
2006-11-05 11:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and me had the same problem. What i did recently is taking 1 week of my leave and spent a vocation just the two of us together. trust me you should give your self a break and enjoy with each other together. You will feel the different.
2006-11-06 22:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by hafidz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have probably heard this before. I would just let her go. Maybe her family is not important to her as yours. At some point you have to draw the line with friends and family, but that is after your married
2006-11-05 10:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by poopiewoopie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she needs a person where he is there all the time tell her that its ok and that if that is what she wants let her have it. Do you want her to be happy or unhappy its your choice.If she wants to stay than take her to a movie or a walk in the park.So do you want a happy girl friend of a misrable girl friend that you wont lat go.It is your choice.
2006-11-05 11:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by YO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a lotta time. Talk to her and show her that you care. Anyone would feel neglected in the situation that you have described.
2006-11-05 11:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like she didnt have much invested into the relationship because if she had she would have discussed this with you before deciding to leave. I would suggest saying "adios, baby" and get on with my life
2006-11-05 11:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are looking at this as if it's something that just happened overnight and it's not. women can take a lot of crap over a long amount of time because it builds our case against you. sit down and have a talk with her. ask her how long she has felt this way and ask her for examples.
2006-11-05 10:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you can either start spending more time with her
or find a g/f that doesn't care for your company so much..
2006-11-05 10:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋