2006-11-05 02:50:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It can work both ways really...it's like they say that the honeymoon is over...when I got married he started neglecting me and would never spend any time with me..in fact we spent more time together when we lived separately! In my case that was the beginning of the end because I found out later the reason for his being away so much...three months into the marriage he had gotten hooked on crack cocaine and he wound up loosing everything including his house, quit his job and the marriage because he insisted nothing was wrong and would not seek help at all. We are still friends and he is a long distance trucker away from the temptations here. I miss him but sometimes it is better that you be apart than together.
2006-11-05 03:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before we marry someone, we are on our best behavior,we want to show our very best side, but after marriage we don't try as hard, things we use to say didn't upset us really did. we are exacly the same person as we were but we were hiding the bad parts. both parties had all of these expectations that the other person could fill the void, and meet all of our unmet needs, so when they don't, we get jaded, and feel we were cheated, and deceived.
2006-11-05 19:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you drag us down to your level by the constant nagging and questioning and butting into our business. Maybe if we were greeted by a smile, a tongue in the ear, a hand down the pants instead of "you gotta fix this", "we need more money", "does my butt look big in these jeans", "what does it mean when the OIL light has been on for a week?" maybe we wouldn't look at beer as the last pleasure in life.
Just kill me now. Take the knife from the turkey and stick it in me.
2006-11-05 11:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Use another Nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does the wifes personality change? YES it does & so does the guys. Some more than others.
Mostly it is perception of change or the lack there of. Woman generally are wanting the guy to change/conform to their vision. Well, get real. we are who/what we are.
As for the wife, why do you stop trying to look good for our husband, put on weight, etc.?
2006-11-05 11:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by cwxmas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is at that point they realize they have made a mistake,,they thought they were gonna have sex all the time and you were gonna be sweet all the time like when dating,,,it takes them several yers to get ovewr the shock and dissapointment of letting them selves be tricked into such a binding contract,,,,by then you have kids and he knows without a doubt,hes condemed,stuck and no way in hell hes ever gonna have a life anymore that dosent include a woman whining about every aspect of his life,,,im in tears now for him.be good to him,,,hes going thro a emotional rollercoaster with you,,,try to remember you were sweeter too during courtship
2006-11-05 11:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe its not a wrose personality. I think that is their personality. It means they married you, they got you, now they can relax and don't have to worry about impressing your or making a good impression. To them, the job is done so they don't act the same.
Just means the guy wasn't being himself before you got married.
2006-11-05 10:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha. You know the saying "Love is blind"? Well......now that you are married, you just took your blinders off.....
Honestly, before we get married we think our significant other is wonderful and can do no wrong, but then we start noticing all of these things afterwards that he/she suddenly out of nowhere started to do/say. Hummm, you know, if you really thought about it, I bet you would realize that he was like that before, but you just didn't notice it.....just like sooooo many of us do. We all want to think we have the perfect mate. :-)
2006-11-05 11:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by diamond_deb_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt change...
it simply responds to the revelations you made after marriage
you weren't revealing yourself fully before marriage
you didn't change either
you both had a preconceived idea of the other before u married, then u both took off the mask and you both saw the other with their faults
deal with it, its life
2006-11-05 12:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by stump jumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why they say love is blind. In most situations you begin you tend to look for the good and overlook the bad. It might not be in plain sight but its there.
2006-11-05 11:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by seekingwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they dont women jsut reasilse that we dont actulay want to change and no we dont want to change and no we dont want to change , the rose coloured galsses fall off and reality sets in this is what you dated wthis is what you married and just becuse you think we can change doesnt mean we will
2006-11-05 10:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by mohamed jihad dirka dirka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋