Arranged to spend the day with my Mum today as I hardly ever see her due to her work schedule and thought it would be nice to catch up. My Mum is the sort of person who says that nobody ever does anything for her so I thought it would be nice to treat her to lunch, however, her ex boyfriend has called her today and she decided to cancel with me. Seems to be becoming a bit of a regular thing. Is it just me or is she being selfish? She's entitled to have a life but surely she shouldn't ditch her kids for a man?
2006-11-05 02:45:50 · 19 answers · asked by Dancing Queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry, after reading some of the answers i thought that I should explain more clearly. My Mum isn't interested in her ex, she said she is using him as he treat her badly when they were together. I am an adult (I'm 22) but still think that family is important. My Mum left my family when i was fifteen and it was left up to me to raise my little brother.
2006-11-05 02:52:38 · update #1
yes she's entitled to a life of her own but if you both made plans and she backed out then thats pretty dam mean of her.....he's her ex now...she should have gone with you...it was a lovely gesture you taking her out for lunch....call her and re plan another meeting, tell her NOT to cancel next time....bless you...oh...and no your not being selfish....you want to be with your mum, thas all....
2006-11-05 02:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should analize the input you make into the relationship with your Mum !
It seems that she is a quite selfish person to treat you like she is !
Don't get hurt by her actions ,it is remarkable how you think of her after what you have been through !
Take her the way she is but stand back a little !
Some women are so rapped up in themselves they can't even think what they do to their children !
I wish you good luck for your future !
Your mother is wrong to treat you like she does,but I don't think that will change !
You are a good girl,don't let her make you sad !
Live your life to the full and with compassion for others, as you do !
2006-11-05 04:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum ditched me and my sister 30 years ago for a man and my sister still suffers today. I moved on but it has been very hard especially as I have tow lovely kids of my own . Be strong
2006-11-05 02:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she did wasn't a very nice thing to do to u.I would talk to her and tell her everything u just told us.On how she complains no one does anything for her and so u decide to take her out and she ditch u for her x.Plus tell her how upsetting this was to u.Remember your mum can't fix a problem when she isn't aware of one.Talk to her.Good luck
2006-11-05 02:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was ditched by both my parents at the age of 14 in favour of their then new respective partners and left to live on my own ...from then on i was completely on my own...my mum took my sister with her too so dont even get me started...thinking about that maybe your mum ditching you for a few lunch dates might not seem so bad...hope so...just bear with her and tell her how you feel next time you talk...hope it helps put things in perspective for you...;0)
2006-11-05 10:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is selfish, but put yourself in her shoes. i'm sure she is to the age where she does not want to spend the rest of her life alone and she is probably lonely. however, the next time she starts complaining about no one ever doing anything for her, you can bring this incident up and tell her that you at least try and she is the one that blew you off.
2006-11-05 02:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family is very important more so your children ..................... but some times people don't think of how it gets to you when the partner comes first
i understand how it feels to be left for a partner and how it hurts but in the long run you only have one mum and dad and love them what ever forgive but not forget
I'm sure she is hurting how he left her and needs to finish what she started to put an end to what ever she needs to do to feel better ....................... just be there for her or tell her how she made you feel
2006-11-05 09:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by angies_angel_eyes2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-10 16:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes by both, when I was 11 I was sent away to school and never came home again and the was over 36 years ago and not seen them since
2006-11-05 02:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she's being extremely selfish. However, it is her life and her choices--even the bad ones. Even though you can't change her behavior, you can still keep in mind that the fault lies with her, not you.
2006-11-05 02:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋