How can i get her to meet more people her own age and make her less shy? she says shes happy, but i dont really thing she is, but dont know what to do do help. thanks
2006-11-05 02:42:05 · 15 answers · asked by hers1357 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was very very shy. The problem with someone else trying to stop someone being shy, is they cannot see it from the shy persons point of view. Forcing her to attend social events will not remove the shyness.
Shyness is the opposite of self-confidence. It is fully possible to be shy, and to be happy. The shy person is unaware of the rewards of being self-confident. When I began to realize how my shyness was limiting me, I wanted to remove my shyness, I wanted to be 'normal'. As I gained in self confidence I re-educated myself about how I saw the world, most people became friendly, but I also saw that most people lacked self-confidence to some degree.
Only she can choose to remove her shyness, all you can do is give her self-confidence by admiring the things she achieves, by looking only at the positive effects of her actions. When she does something wrong, understand how easy the mistake was to make.
If you only mention things you see as wrong with her, such as her shyness, you will be reinforcing her shyness. You can be a human mirror which lets her know what a wonderful person she is.
2006-11-05 03:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sprinkle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with her yourself a bit - take her out for walks across country or some outdoors persuit that'll help build her confidence. Introduce her to things that could become a hobby - like salsa dancing or book clubs (why the hell not?) Invite her friend too. If you take her on these things, it'll help her confidence. Confidence is the key - but ultimately, only she can change her life if, indeed, it really does need changing. If you keep on badgering her to change her life you'll only make her draw away from you too. So show her what life could be. Don't tell her how to live it.
2006-11-05 02:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by rob p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just let your sister be. If she says he's happy then that's all that matters. Just because she doesn't have a zillion friends doesn't mean she's not happy. There's nothing wrong with being shy either. Lots of people are shy and they are just fine. I don't have a lot of hobbies myself, but i'm usually happy most of the time. If your sister was depressed then I could see you being worried, but if she's content then leave her alone, ans let her be. Trust me if she wants more friends she'll get them. Don't worry yourself with this. She's alright.
2006-11-05 04:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your sister is the same age or slightly older or younger you could get he to go to a club with you and your mates so she might meet a guy and that might get her a wee bit unshy when it comes to boys but then she might meets lassies at the club and make friends there are tun of posibleitis all you have to do is try them out.
2006-11-05 02:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by cfc_amanda_cfc 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why dont you take her to a guitar / bass tutor and see if that brings her out of her shell. i was pretty much shy in my teens ( i still am to a small degree) but boy did i come out! i went on to play in a band - nothing too big mind. it worked for me and it may work for your sister. )
2006-11-05 06:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by cerys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u kno what i used to be exaclty tha same 4 reel... just bare people around her take her, to parties and i started taking dace classes and singing classes just to get my confidence up... also when i went church i read on stage and stuff so it mite jus be a confidence thing. or even jus get her around ppl that are more quiet and more shyer than her then she'll be forced to started getting involved and to talk and stuff trus me i kno i sounds weird but it worked 4 me... good luck!!
2006-11-05 05:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your sister somewhere, where she'll meet other ppl her age. Maybe she needs the opportunity to do that, ot maybe she just isn't very sociable person. Get her to start in a team sport :)
2006-11-05 02:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my sister is exactly the same, but she has no friends, i talked to her and we had a very emotional conversation, i found out she is homosexual which made a lot of things clearer, talk to your sister one to one and find out what is the problem, do not be violent phyically or mentally as this will distract you and her.
2006-11-05 02:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Pie and Mash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you believe your sister does she not normally tell the truth. if that the case may be you do need to help her but if she is a truthful person let her be
2006-11-05 02:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by kissmadme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be, you might end up embarrasing her and yourself, your not supposed to care about your little sister until shes old enough to drive you around, lend you money and babysit for you
2006-11-05 02:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Rhapsody 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋