We broke up for 3 months this summer, so we just got back together 2 months ago. He said he was going to ask me soon, but I told him I wanted it to be because he can't imagine life without me. I told him I wanted the idea of me being pregnant to marinate within him and for us not to rush into it. I have another child and I still live with my mom b/c I am a full time college student. I thought getting engaged now and married before the baby comes in June/July would be best. And we could continue to save until then. Did I make the right decision?
2006-11-05 02:16:06 · 19 answers · asked by Me 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How weird is it though to get married and come back home to my mom's house?
2006-11-05 02:19:37 · update #1
Also take heed I already have a great great job within my major, and I pay for half of my mother's bills. I am her youngest daughter and she won't say it but I know she doesn't want me to leave.
2006-11-05 02:22:48 · update #2
Trust me, do NOT rush into marriage. I wasn't married when I became pregnant... I did love my boyfriend/he loves me and we were good with each other... we did end up moving in together. and we later got married, but not because of the baby. We married out of love for one another, and because we knew we were meant for each other. a lot of ppl might look down upon you for not being married- so what. It's done, you are pregnant. You have a precious baby coming, and if you rush into marriage, you could end in divorce... I'm saying this because a baby can be tough on a relationship at times... you don't get much time for you two alone together, not much time to build the relationship, so it needs to be strong before this baby comes and before you decide to get married. Your life will be about that baby for a long time, and you don't get much "YOU" time. I was 23 when i became pregnant... and feel 20 yrs older now that I have my son- lack of sleep lol... he's worth it in every way though. Our son was colicky (crying and crying- and sometimes nothing works to get them to stop)... the first couple of months- seemed like a year itself... it was very difficult and we would both cry ourselves because it's so sad when you can't do anything to get your baby to stop crying. You feel hopeless. Since then he became the happiest baby ever...until teething... and then it was back again.
So just be prepared for all of these things. Babies are truly amazing, and once you hold him/her for the first time, you won't believe the love you have for that child- it's wonderful and amazing. build your relationship strong before you get married. I have a lot of family members who divorced, so I knew I wanted my marriage to be forever!
goodluck and congrats!
2006-11-05 02:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by m930 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello! no i don't think that u have 2 get married right away. Since you 2 have broken up b4, why not try living 2gether first? I have been w/my fiancee for 3 years now and we have a 7 mo. old son and i have a 10 yr. old from a previous relationship. We are living 2gether very happily. I was already pregnant when he proposed 2 me. Congrats on the new baby! Good luck!
2006-11-05 02:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by frostygurl8 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting married just because you got pregnant is the worst idea ever. a baby does not mean you love each other enough to move onto the next step. and a baby should never be an excuse. considering you have only been together i would suggest that you not move in together quite yet. you can always make the decision to get married later on you have over 8 months to go and this is not something that you need to rush into those next months til your babys born is twice as long that youve been together.as for what your parents think that is not there desicion. you need to make this one on your own. i hope i helped a lil bit!
2016-05-22 00:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the rite decision.To get married just because you are pregnant is never a good idea. These kinds of marriages very rarely work out.I would say that if your finances are stable And you have a place for you and the baby why rush things. You need to be sure of him and your relationship before you get married.
2006-11-05 02:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married just because you're pregnant. Or move in together? Finish college (if your mother will allow you to stay with her), get a job, move out on your own and take care of your children. What were you think'n girl?
You have your hands full now, but the responsibility is yours, not your mothers or your boyfriends (unless he truly loves you). Make a good life for yourself and your children - you can do it, but you sure made it harder on yourself.
2006-11-05 02:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Paige2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would (personally..) wait until you are out of college. It might make things a little bit easier on you. If you do decide to get married, make sure it's the right thing. Make sure you BOTH want to get married, not just because of the baby. I'm sure you don't want to get married to a man that you don't love, because of a child (does this sound mean?).
2006-11-05 02:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why take the chance and get married at all. It doesn't matter if you have kids or are pregnant. That could make things worse. Rethink this and talk to other people before you make a BIG mistake.
2006-11-05 02:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These issues and questions/answers should have been done before you got pregnant. In this day and age of controceptive's there is no reason for pregnancies outside of marriage and when one isn't ready or has a head full of questions.
You already have one child, living with mom! This is not her responsibility. It is yours!!
You need to sit and have a talk with "yourself" and decide what is best for you and the child. Than, talk to the father and your parents for support.
2006-11-05 02:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Nana 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No. Just get married. IIt is really too soon to think about moving in together. Why rush it?
2006-11-05 02:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Bear Naked 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your getting married for the wrong reasons. i think you guys should live together and see how it goes. then in a couple years if hes mad about you you can get married. but you guys getting married just because your pregnant is totally WRONG.
2006-11-05 02:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋