There are times when my friends make fun of me, laugh at me and I feel like an idiot when all of them laugh. I know they are just having some fun, but always it is me that is being targeted in the entire group. This happens at certain times. They are co-operative at other times, but I just get sick of all the teases. Plz tell me how do I cope with this?
2006-11-05 02:02:08 · 21 answers · asked by truth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Find some new and real friends. If you leave this bunch behind one of two things will happen. Either they will miss you and ask why you have left them, or they will just forget about you. If the first happens, then you can tell them why, and give them a second chance. Or if the second happens, then they were not your friends in the first place. But I am guessing that at least one or two will remain your friends and treat you better. There is usually one or two that start the insults and then the rest not wanting to be left out will join in. You can not change the worst ones because they think that they are better than you. But you can influence the good hearted ones.
Good luck.
2006-11-05 02:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel like an idiot, when people target other people by making fun of them it's usually because they are jealous of them for some reason, it could also be that they know you can laugh with them because you have a great sense of humor. If you truly can't handle the jokes, then tell them so, if they are really your true friends they will respect your feelings and knock it off. If this doesn't work maybe you can join in the fun by pointing out some of their flaws and poke a little fun at them, remember to be funny not hurtfull. Good luck.
2006-11-05 02:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them to stop teasing you & you don't really like them do that to you. If they don't get your message clear, just ignore their teases. They may be your friend but building up their own confident by teasing a friend is just not a healthy activity. Maybe you should get some new friends that don't pick on you to boost their confident. True friend don't do something that hurts friend mentally & physically.
2006-11-05 02:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by CM C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WoW........i am sooooo glad you are so honest!!
Well......if you are a proactive person forgive them, ( I know it's a hard thing to do......trust me..!!!) confront them calmly and tell them how you really feel. You should ignore it, and give them a second chance, because afterall, you too probably have you're weaknesses just as we all do.
You can make a big fuss about it, and pick a fight with them. Or you could put it aside and say "I'm not going to let it ruin my day!!"
(Being proactive will really help you in the long run........so GOOD LUCK DUDE!! )
2006-11-05 02:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look the offender straight in the eye when he does it and give a questioning shrug that says "what's with that?" kind of response. Then finish it off with a private conversation about the inapproprateness of the situation. If He continues, Dude, he ain't your friend!
2006-11-05 02:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you want the truth two things are going on for this to happen. One is your not telling them it hurts you if you do this you be respected. You also must tell them the jokes on them because you won’t have a friend for long if they keep this up. Tell them what it does to you if they make fun and don’t back up. Make new friends it’s going to be hard at first. Your self esteem must be crushed if this has gone on to long. Start joining new activities that bring you into contact with new people biking, sports, church and any type of club at school. Well you want the truth two things are going on for this to happen. One is your not telling them it hurts you if you do this you be respected. You also must tell them the jokes on them because you won’t have a friend for long if they keep this up. Tell them what it does to you if they make fun and don’t back up. Make new friends it’s going to be hard at first. Your self esteem must be crushed if this has gone on to long. Start joining new activities that bring you into contact with new people biking, sports, church and any type of club at school. Young people are typically social awkward but social skills are like anything else no pain no gain.
Sorry no easy answer on this one.
2006-11-05 02:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a couple of different ways to handle this, you can take it as given and be okay with it or you can be mad. They wouldn't tease you if they didn't like you unless they are just a bunch of jerks.
The more you say about it the more they may tease you.
2006-11-05 02:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tease them back - that's what I did. Sounds like bully boy behaviour to me. Get the ring leader and talk to him. If he realises what he is doing he is not much of a friend.
2006-11-05 02:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your friends that you dont like them laughing only at you and try to find another persont to laugh at, or give them a reason to laugh at you, do something funny and then you wont feel as self conscious. if they are really your friends they will understand
2006-11-05 02:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by megan h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on your ages, this might work, but if you are younger it may not. I think you should let them know that what may seem "fun" is hurtful to others and that you would honestly like them to stop. true friends always appreciate honesty...
2006-11-05 02:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by kcrobinson03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋