I ended up chatting with a very sweet man last night for about an hour and half. He was very sweet and funny and a had a lot of laughs. I wasn't looking for anything and neither was he, I think we were just both lonely. His wife is in another country and my husband works a lot. Nothing could happen because he lives in CA.and I live in CO. So, why do I feel so guilty?
2006-11-05 01:59:14 · 40 answers · asked by pmemommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't feel guilty. Enjoying a little spontaneity with a member of the opposite sex can be quite fun.
2006-11-05 02:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by charlie_n_tx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your feeling guilty, you probably know your husband would be upset if he found out that you were talking to another man. If that is the case don't do it anymore, I have seen many happy marriages go down the drain because of on line chatting. If your lonely and want to talk to someone, try your husband, make a special dinner and chat away, Hope this helps Paula
2006-11-05 02:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by paulamcneil1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably feel guilty because you enjoyed yourself with another man, not your husband. True human relationships involve more than just sex and physical compatibility. If you have all of this in a marriage, it is wonderful. How many times do you hear so someone having a sexual affair in which the two people are very compatible on a sexual level, but have nothing else in common. That is why many marriages fall apart, after the sex is routine, there is nothing else to keep them together. Well, you experienced enjoying yourself with another man on a non-sexual level. If you both were single and started dating, you could have a wonderful relationship, but, what if you two were not sexually compatible? There is no reason why two people cannot be friends with certain things in common. I have female friends that I really enjoy being around and my wife has male friends she enjoys being around. But, neither goes any further.
2006-11-05 02:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by brucenjacobs 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it was just small talk and nothing sexual you should not feel guilty at all. If it was sexual talk then yes you should feel guilty. Sounds as though you are lonely and wanting some exitement and now you feel guilty. If it was small talk you can tell your husband that you are chatting with a friend on line and respect your husbands opinion if he is ok with you chatting then continue if not then don't.
2006-11-05 05:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to hide it from your husband, then it's wrong. If you wouldn't have the same conversation with this guy if your husband was in the same room, then you have a reason to feel guilty. This is how affairs start, both emotional and physical. If you are needing more from your husband in the way of intimacy then TALK to him about it, don't venture off to someone else.
2006-11-05 03:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel guilty for the plain and simple reason he is a man,,you cant be sure he wants an innocent relationship because you dont know him,BUT,you cant be expected to be a mind reader and i assume you would think he would say something to make you see otherwise,so you keep talking and it turns out he doesnt do anything but talk,,he doesnt bring up sex,he doesnt use inuendos so you figure,,"alright,,he seems ok",,and you relax and enjoy it,,,,,you havent done anything wrong,,the way i see it there are only two sexes to choose from and so this happens to be a man,,i bet you have talked to women too who made you laugh or just helped you pass an otherwise boring day,,i dont think you should feel guilty but,,ask yourself this,,assuming your hubby isnt the jealous type,,would you be happy for your hubby to read your messages as you typed them? if you wouldnt mind i ,personally dont see a problem, you have 'chosen' someone far away so there is no chance of contact ,,you dont have to make excuses for not meeting him because realistically it cant happen,,there-in is a built in protection system so to speak,,your comfort levels are set to high and you feel free to be yourself,,no one says you have to talk to him all the time or even again and next week there may be another man thousands of miles away that,,for an hour or two enjoys your chit chat,,panic when they propose to you and say they are on your doorstep,until then,,stay safe,,stay faithful and stay fun.
2006-11-05 02:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing wrong with talking to this man. i think the reason you feel guilty is because this man was able to make you feel the thing your husband is not able to do because he works. now your husband may look at this in a whole other way.as I'm sure you are aware. and that to could be another reason you are feeling this way. but to me there is no harm in talking to someone, just don't start getting into conversations with this man regarding your marriage or his. because before you know it, both of you will be having doubts about your spouse and the relationship that you share.
2006-11-05 02:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 13:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by gerda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On some level you feel like you connected with this guy in ways that you have not been able to connect with your hubby in awhile. It is not really wrong per say but if your conscience is twinging then its trying to tell you something...as long as you keep things friendly and do not go to a sexual level in your conversations then it is ok but I gotta warn ya, even tho there is a distance between you, I personally know of people actually leaving their spouses for the person they fell in love with over the Internet...it may start out innocently enough just be aware ok?
2006-11-05 02:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did nothing wrong! Being married doesn't mean that you can't enjoy the company of any other member of the opposite sex! I work with lots of women (I'm a guy) and we have great discussions about everything. And we enjoy each other's company. We even flirt at times. But we never cross the line!
2006-11-05 02:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋