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Tell what you think about long-distance relationship?Is it possible?Can it change in something bigger like marriage?

2006-11-05 01:10:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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I think long-distance realationships are very hard. I had met this guy in my hometown but it turned out he lived in California. I saw him twice a year for 4-6 weeks. We broke up after a year cause he ended up cheating on me.
Now i'm engaged to be married, i live in Germany at the time and my fiance in the United States. I will be joining him over there next February. So yes, long-distance realationships can work and turn out into marriage. BUT let me tell you, it is so hard not being able to see, touch, feel or hold your partner for a long time. I couldn't live like this for a long time; just phoning and seeing eachother on the internet.

2006-11-05 01:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

My husband and I went through a few periods where we lived in different cities (both before and after we married, although we were living in the same place when we met), and my brother just got engaged to a woman after a long distance relationship.

I think it's harder the younger you are. It gets to be a pain in the butt, and expensive, and you start to wonder why you're bothering when there are all kinds of people right near you that you could be dating. But if you're at a stage where you're really looking to settle down, and not just to go out and have a good time, you can make it work.

You have to be willing to travel and actually spend time together, and be up for all the costs that entails. If the separation isn't just for something temporary, then one of you will have to be willing to leave job, friends, maybe family, etc to relocate eventually. If neither wants to move but you're figuring, we'll deal with that when we get to that stage, you're in trouble already.

2006-11-05 11:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by EQ 6 · 0 0

Long distance relationships are really hard and you really have to be dedicated to each other to make it work. My brother and sister-in-law spent a couple of years (when they were married) only being together on weekends (no kids at the time). They did really well because they didn't let the small stuff get in the way...I know it was hard on both of them, but my sister-in-law had an opportunity to do big things with her career and my brother wanted her to have the chance...they are a one in a million couple that have been married for almost 20 yrs now! My sister-in-law has always been grateful to my brother for the opportunity that she had. The both learned alot through it. And I think they are closer than ever because of it.

I had a long-distance relationship before I met my husband...and it really didn't work out because we really didn't know each other very well before he left and I think we were just "in love" with being "in love". That happens sometimes. No hard feelings or regrets, but I am glad that we gave it a chance.

Hope this helps answer your question at bit. Good luck....

2006-11-05 01:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0 0

Been there done that. There eventually has to be someone willing to travel and the expense can be great. Followed by a trial living together lets say for a month to see if it works. Weekends and a week is to much like a vacation together. Real life comes with time together while they live their life normally.

It can change into something bigger like marriage if one person is willing to relocate or I guess two can relocate.

2006-11-05 01:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Donnarene 2 · 2 0

I dont think of all and sundry needs to have an prolonged distance courting. existence occurs and gets interior the way, you in basic terms would desire to paintings around it. If somebody needs to be with their long distance BF or GF adequate/or they love them adequate, they'll circulate to the place the different individual is and stop the long distance subject. those people who've relationships over the internet or out of state "in basic terms with the aid of fact" are in all probability dropping their time. long distance relationships wont final if there isnt dedication.

2016-10-03 07:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Iv never tried it, but i guess youve got to be really faithfull. You should proberbly stay in contact each and everyday - Like phoning or at the least emailing. Also be totally honest, if you are finding it hard then talk about it, Get this person to help you.
Im sure if could lead to marriage, but im sure that no marriage office will marry you unless you are in the same room when you take your marrige vows - lol
Good luck

2006-11-05 01:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by jst4di 2 · 0 0

yes i think they can work. i know they can. heres my story not complete yet. but gonna be. well i happen to know a bit about long distance relationships since im in one right now. I met this guy. he lives in the UK and i live in the USA... we started off as friends.... . then we got closer and i broke up with my current boyfriend. and now i've been going out with him for 3 and half months. we knew eachother for like two years. being best friends. now we talk everyday. mostly on the computer. and sometimes on the phone. but the bills. we are pretty serious. we love eachother with all our hearts even though we havent met yet... we are planning to. we actually have a plan. i think that meeting someone online/ long distance are good because it makes the heart grow fonder. and because your get to know the person on the inside instead of just there looks. because unfortuanaltely guys only like me cause of my looks. so ive always been looking for the guy that i got to know he didnt know what i looked like till i made him fall in love with me. and if happend! i didnt think this long distance thing would work. but a month ago he told me wanted to marry me. he thinks im the one. he loves me with all his body and soul. so now look. i have a great llife. and plan to spend the rest of it with him. i say they are good. even though they are heartbreaking at times. but i say take the chance because i did and now look at this. it changed my life forever....

2006-11-05 01:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by Skye 5 · 0 1

yep, possible. And could very well end up in marraige as well. ..Surprisingly. but always keep in mind that not " everything" that you imagine with this person will be true...therefore it is very important to consider all other physical geographic factors closely and in detail before going into a long term relationship.

2006-11-05 01:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sorry to tell you this, but from experience no, they do not work out. Generally because the "closeness" is not there and people get lonely, that is the whole reason for looking for someone. If one is willing to move, yes possible, if not, no... never....

2006-11-05 04:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by JESSICA 1 · 0 0

well mate
all i can say to this is both of you really got to work on it and i mean both of you i am a over the road transport driver yep a trucker just broken up with her in the last week i do say it was her choice i would be out on the road for up to 3 weeks when i would come back in it would be for at least 4 to 5 days and we would do things together over these days restaurants ,movies the mall even go away just to be with her but i guess she wanted more but before we started going with each other she knew i was a trucker and my job required me out on the road to earn $$ for my rig because if i was not running my rig i would not have the money to take this beautiful lady out to places i did so to answer your question yes they can work but it comes down to both of you to be faithful to each other so best of luck out there in the world of relationships

:: does anyone want a cheap cruise ticket was planning to give it to her but i guess not now 10 days sailing Caribbean

2006-11-05 02:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by wombat4412 2 · 0 0

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