to anyone who became pregnant in thier teens...?

Question

how did you tell your parents and how did they take it?
did you stay with the father?
what happened to your baby?
did you carry on at school if there?
any regrets?
thanks x

Answer 1

I told my father cause i knew he would not freak out. He helped me tell my mother. No me and the father broke up during my 7 month of pregnancy. I have a beautiful 11 year old girl i also met a wonderful guy when she was 3 and I was 18 and i have 2 more children. I didn't go back to school till she was 1 year old. I also went to collage and got a certificate. No regrets. Her father has always been a part of her life. I count myself lucky because I know this isn't always the case. BTW i was 15 when i had her

Answer 2

I had my first daughter when I was sixteen. My mom actully took my to the doctors because I was having severe migrains, numbness in my limbs and was always exsausted, the doctor ran routine tests and couldn't find anything wrong. Finally we took a pregnancy test and sure enough that was the problem. The doctor actully brought the results on a little box to my mom, she was upset at first. She was more concerned however with making sure that I was okay then she was with being upset about it. My suggestion for telling your parents is to be direct and straight forward, they may get upset but they love you and will respect your honesty. My daughters father is now my ex-husband we were married before she was born and divorced about three years later. Only stay with the father if your in a loving and solid relationship, it really is better for a baby to have two happy parents apart, the a miserable family unit. My daughter will be six next month, she is a smart well developed little girl. She knows that both mommy and daddy love her completley and would do anything for her. I left regular day school and attendended night school so I could get my diploma, that made it easier for me to also work to take care of my little one. I wouldn't sit down and tell a teenager that having a baby at their age is a smart decision, but I don't regret a single day that my daughter was in y life. Given the oppertunity to go back and do things differently I wouldn't. My daughter has made me the person I am today, without her my life would be have been a little easier yes, but absoultly meaningless.

Answer 3

hi
i got pregnant at 18 i still have 10 weeks to go. i phoned my dad and sed i had something to tell him as i didn't live near home and before i could tell him he knew, i guess ur parents kinda know really without u say because u change quite alot when u first find out.
i am no longer with the father because he never wanted the baby and told me to get a abortion, so i ended it with him coz i didn't need the negativity he was sending my way and know we are not together he denies he is the baby's father.
my baby is still growing inside me and is very health
i have on regret which is the father of my baby dont want to know him and the person who i wanted to be the father which was the love of my life is not and i have to deal with the fact that my ex (baby's father) is a totally waste of space,
having a baby as a teen puts a lot of pressure on us as (not all but some) of the older generation frown upon us for being a teen mum,

if u are on ur way to becoming a teen mum i wish u good luck and all the best x

Answer 4

I didn't get pregnant until I was nineteen and I was married to the father but I'm not judging you at all, it can happen to anyone. Just sit your parents down and tell them, they may get upset at first but they will probably love your baby just as much as you do. Babies are so wonderful. You have a big responsibility ahead of you but you can do it. As for the dad, is he a good person? Is he someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? DON'T marry him just because your pregnant. Either way you need to finish school. Go to alternative school so that you can be with your baby more. And read everything you can get your hands on about babies. It helps a lot! Don't be scared. You will never regret having something so wonderful. You may regret not spending so much time with your friends as you use to but it's worth it. goodluck.

Answer 5

I got pregnant with my daughter( now age 7) at 19 1/2. I told my mom and she was not too upset because I was engaged to the father months before I even got pregnant. I was with the father for 3 years ( never got married) I had already finished school, and was in college with a descent job, I do not regret it at all! My daughter is the love of my life! I am now married with a second baby girl. Take care!

Answer 6

I had my son planned at 17. My boyfriend who is now my husband was 20. He had gotten a home for us and we knew we were and are very happy. My parents guessed that I was pregnant. If your parents know you at all they will guess too. Your family might cry, that usually happens, but then you need to tell them that you will be doing as your parents. I have two children under the age of 19 and they are with me.. I did not carry on school and that is what I regret. Both of my children were planned, and I would never ever want them to be away from me. You need to be the best mother you can be.

Answer 7

I got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17. I didn't tell my parents, because by that time I was out on my own, and both parents lived in another country. The only people I really worried about finding out were my grandparents. I spent many a sleepless night trying to figure out how to tell them without disappointing them. Turns out, my best friends mom beat me to the punch so they asked me about it before I had a chance to tell them. They took it much, much better than I thought they would.

I ended up marrying the father - I know, married at 16... what a brilliant move. I thought I loved him and I believed we were perfect for each other. Turned out I was wrong. I divorced him, and don't talk to him much now. There's a constant battle between us over child support, as he doesn't really keep up on his payments.

My baby is now 6 years old, and he along with his baby brother are the light of my life. He's a first grader now and he's on the pee-wee football team, and he refers to my current husband as "dad" - and of his own free will. He doesn't really ask about his real father anymore.

I was only two months away from graduation when I had my son. I went to school all throughout my pregnancy, and after I recovered from the birth. The school I went to put me in a "teen pregnancy" program which was filled with other girls that had gotten pregnant, and had babies. They were really understanding about absences and they let me bring my son with me to class and helped take care of him while I did my school work.

The only thing I regret is not being well informed about sex at such a young age. I wouldn't change anything about my son and the fact that he is mine. I do wish, for my son's sake, that I could have had him when I was a little older so I could have given him more. But life is good now, and he doesn't remember the hard times... so that's all that matters.

Answer 8

I got pregnant at month before I turned 16. I did not stay with the father. My mother was with me when I found out I was pregnant. She was very supportive of me. She took custody of him when he was 9 months old and she has raised him since then. It took me a lot of years to forgive her for taking him away from me, but he was better off. I couldn't have cared for him like she has. he is 14 years old now and an honor roll student. He has been on the honor roll every six weeks since he started school. I regret being angry with my mother for so long. I love my son and talk to him daily. I now have a 9 year old son as well. I also regret that by the time I got my act together it wasn't fair to my oldest to take him out of the only home he ever knew. I quit school, but got my GED. I am now married and doing great. We are trying to adopt a baby since my husband has no children. Hope this helps you. If you need someone to talk to for moral support, feel free to instant message me.

Answer 9

I got pregnant at 14 and had my baby at 15. My parents literally sent me away to a home for pregnant teens (after they found out it was too late to get an abortion) when I told them - where I stayed for three months until they realized I would NOT put my baby up for adoption. Then I got to come home and live with my grandma since my parents hated me. They (my parents) had nothing to do with the baby until he was about six months old in fact. As for the baby's father, he has always been there for me. In fact I am now 28 and we are married and just now expecting our second child (in a month!). As for school, I did finish high school at a normal high school and I graduated. It wasn't real easy since I worked too, but my husband quit school so he could watch the baby and I could finish. We of course didn't get married until earlier this year, but it just wasn't a huge priority since we were already together and happy. I don't really regret anything, except having him so early. A lot of people had very negative expectations of me and I had to fight to prove them wrong. I just believe that if I gave my baby away I would have felt a lot worse in the long run. My son can be a pain in the butt (almost) teen sometimes, but I wouldn't trade him for the world. It can work, but not for everyone (sad to say). It just depends on your situation and who you have to help you out until you can truly get on your feet.

Answer 10

I got pregnant the summer before my senior year with my oldest daughter. My mom actually kinda figured it out before me. It is like my mom knew my periods and shes like you're pregnant and I was in denial. But sure enough, I went to a clinic the next day and took a test and it was Postive. I was with the father then but we didnt stay long together after I found out b/c I moved back home to finish my education. See I was going to drop of school and work full time until the baby was born but my parents wanted to finish school since that was important to me. Well my ex didnt like that and he said if I moved out then it was over. Well I thought about my options and thought that education would be better for my baby and i. I did graduate at a semester my senior year and had my daughter like 3 months later. It was the best thing ever. My parents were upset at first but lord now they love my daughter more than life its self. I would talk to your parents if I was you and just be TOTALLY honest with them. And please do finish school b/c I know there is programs out there that you can finish school. Hope this is has helped you some!