I'm 51 never been married the love of your life walks back into my life after 25 years. We moved in together and was very happy but with me I get curious and think I got to know if shes the love of my life So being the dumb *** I am I go out and get some strange just to see what I was missing. Well I felt so guilty I told her when I got home . She appeciates my honesty But Shes leaving anyway
2006-11-05 01:02:13 · 19 answers · asked by James J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can understand her leaving. She is most likely feels hurt by your actions.
She may be able to forgive but not right now. Give her some time but keep up the communication if she is up to it. Call to check on her but don't keep bringing up event that caused her to leave.
2006-11-05 01:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok so the love of your life walks back in after 25 years away, you get together, settle in and then you go after someone new because you wanted to see what was missing. Do you see something wrong with this picture? I think you got scared of commitment and decided to take the easy way out but just did not want to admit it. Think of the 25 years before when you could have gotten whatever you got...I feel like you wanted to sabotage the relationship deep inside you. If that was the first time then there could be a next for you. I do not blame her for walking away but I gotta say you need to remember this the next time someone comes along unless you want to spend the next 25 years alone...just being honest myself and hope that helps.
2006-11-05 01:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
our wrong choices hurt others, so badly sometimes they leave us. what u did was not excusable, and if she would take u back, it would require alot of talking and communicating, and u to show alot of repentance, and admit u had made a mistake. why didn't u check out other's before going back to her? bad choices indeed. all u can do now is pray, and hope she can forgive u, but alot will depend on how u respond to it. perhaps she has dealt with betrayal in her past and the more we have to deal with something, as we get older and wiser, the more we are willing to just walk away from it, so we can excape the rejection and the pain. talk to her again, show her how u feel, tell her what is in your heart. u violated something very sacred, and sadly our choices often determine our future. life's choices sometimes have consequences that we may not be prepard for.
2006-11-05 12:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness isn't undemanding ... once you want someone and performance spent years progression a existence with them you commence to bond withthem and also you forgive so that you do not lose that bond, that love, that magic that takes position once you quite enable it go because you quite are a more effective perfect human being for it. You sound like a good woman and that i desire the finest for you! you are able to forgive and nonetheless have self understand ... or perhaps more effective so.
2016-11-28 19:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people aren't lucky enough to have a 2nd chance with the love of their life, and you screwed yours up... out of stupidity. You aren't a kid,...you're 51 years old,... never been married,... and obviously must have adequate experience with women and relationships. If you still questioned whether or not was the one after 25 years of being without her, then you don't deserve her and she should move on.
2006-11-05 01:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Youre 51, never been married, she is 'the love of your life' and NOW you decide to go out and get some SkankHoBootie? Sounds like you are VERY confused AND should NOT get married....relationships are one person with one person, committment and NOT stepping outside the relationship....ever!
Does she need a ride to her final destination? Geesh!
2006-11-05 01:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sunnee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey...does she need any help packing?
You already know, don't you, that you blew it. Yeah, she's doing the right thing.
51 and never married? Well I can see why! And you probably never will be either. At least until you come to terms with your fidelity issues and grow up.
2006-11-05 01:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummmmmmmmm thats a tough one.. You cant blame her for leaving.. you realised u did the wrong thing. She might come back to you later on in life once she realises this, but for now you should learn to appreciate people i guess..
Its good you were honest with her though.
2006-11-05 01:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had 25 years to get strange pieces. I'd walk out on you too if you cared that little about me.
2006-11-05 01:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by shojo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only choice you have is to let her go. If you truly love her, after she has had time to get over the hurt, beg for her forgiveness, and promise to never do it again! She might forgive you then, and try it again. She also, might not!
2006-11-05 01:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋