found out, while my bf and i were fighting that he IMed some random girl on yahoo, and jerked off to her doing only God knows what on her web cam. he claims its not a big deal b/c we were fighting and i wasnt there. although we spoke on the phone everyday. i feel like he cheated on me. i mean he might as well have brought this **** home and f*ed her. i am so confused. i am so torn/ b/c i dont know if i can forgive, and i dont know if i really am just over reacting. i found porn on his computer b4 and told how that hurt my feelings. i can understand (not like but understand) his watchin porn, but he told this **** she was beautiful, how hard she was making him, and how sexy she was and so on. is it just me or is this cheating? i wonder how he would feel if some stranger was jerking off to me naked on a web cam. that would make a whore, so how come it doesnt make him one? how come b/c i wasnt there to "satisfy" him, its ok? PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR OPINION! thanks.
2006-11-05 00:50:34 · 18 answers · asked by so confused 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i wouldnt want to look at another man on a web cam, or anything like that. and i wouldnt want another man lookin at me in that way. i would think that no matter who u are if you signifigant other was doing that you would be hurt and feel just as confused as i am. thanks for all the comments, keep them coming so i cant show him just "how big a deal" this is!
2006-11-05 01:05:47 · update #1
i also want to point out i dont even remember the last time he told me i was beautiful
2006-11-05 01:11:55 · update #2
Dump him. If he's too stupid to understand it's wrong, there's no hope for him.
2006-11-05 00:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by spongeworthy_us 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 19:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that in my book is cheating. Then again, under certain circumstances Porn is cheating too. My guy has done the same thing, only he took it further and was actually LOOKING for someone else to f*k. Don't let him get that far. If he keeps saying its not a big deal he doesn't care or understand your feelings on the matter. My guy and I had a fight and he got a lapdance from some chick in a bar just to spite me. He still hears about it. It's NOT ok. PERIOD!
2016-05-22 00:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i still consider that cheating, whether done on cam through the net or in person. just because you fought is not a reason for him to cheat or jerk off. he is simply immature and a natural cheater. if i am you i will dump him. he is not worth you, he will never be worth you two years or ten years from now. think what will he do if you are already married and you fight. will he run to other girls/woman just to get a jerk. Rid him now while you still can. Its gonna hurt but the hurt will be temporary.
2006-11-05 01:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It certainly is cheating. And it's him humiliating you, too!
Some couples watch porn together, to improve and stimulate their sex life. I wouldn't be into it, but it's seems OK if both partners enjoy it.
What your bf does is behind your back. Does he have a problem with intimacy.......how come he does not share his sexual phantasy with you?
Girl, you deserve better than saving yourself for a guy who is intimate with an anonimous person and jerks off for a webcam!
Sorry to tell you this, but you need to kick him out. If you stay with him, you will always wonder if he's playing online again. And your bf needs to learn a few things about intimacy before starting a relationship with a real life woman.
Or else:
Ask him kindly if you can borrow his webcam, because you like to try also what turns him on....... I bet he'd be dead-worried if you ask him that.
Am on your side girl!
Big hug for you!
2006-11-05 01:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by Endie vB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A sexual act with another person, in physical form or over the computer is cheating. When you get into a relationship with someone, you expect honesty, trust, and a monogamous relationship in all forms. It sounds as if he has a serious problem, and he either needs help or you need to find your way out of the relationship.
2006-11-05 01:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who is telling you it is considered cheating! Since he couldn't understand your feeling and apologize correctly for the situation, you have no guarantee that this type of behavior will not continue (people have fights every now and then in their relationships for the rest of their lives).. just because you were fighting doesn't give him the right to forget his commitment to you and jerk off to other women... yick.. thinking about your guy is making me sick... go find a better one.. plenty of fish in the sea...
2006-11-05 04:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more here than just this guy cheating on you. You're dealing with a guy with a sexual addiction. He's going to be a lifetime of trouble if you hang around. Believe me, if he's cheating on you with a computer, he's screwing around on you in real life as well. You have morals, he has none and you deserve better.
2006-11-05 01:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As man I think it is wrong. Porn is a festering cancer that eats away at relationships. In my 50 years of life I have found that total intimacy with the one person who means most to me is so wonderful! Find someone who loves you and not what you can do for him. Sex is the most powerful drug there is, just look at advertising.
2006-11-05 01:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Wart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump this Jerk - he has serious problems - and they won't get better, believe me. He's on the road to JAIL! He is a sick,demented sex addict and its only beginning. Get a REAL man .. the one you have now hasn't got the "parts" - Your too good... don't change... DUMP HIM ...NOW . and don't look back. Don't answer his calls, because nothing you say to him will change who he is and is becoming... Take a look at his Father,Brothers,Uncles, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree" - RUN FAST - get away from him NOW>>>>I know what I am talking about. I am a retired professional.
2006-11-05 01:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the intimacy with the other woman would be cheating -- yes.
He is probably (1) an asshole and (2) bored with the sex life you and he share.
If you're going to stay with him, think about ways to spice up the sex life. You don't have to, like, hire a midget and a horse, you know? Be yourself, but be aggressive.
2006-11-05 01:01:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋