ok im a male of 13?? and i no im not gay coz im so attracted to women but i keep looking at pictures of naked men? and i kinda get turned on but when i see gay sex pics i nearly get sick!!! i think im really homophobic!! but i really dnt wanna b bi??! i love girls and in life i wanna have a child??! when i am out with friends i dont look at a guy nd think he is hot??! i think that is disgustin!! and when im out nd i see a hot girl i say i wud meet her??! i cnt stop thinkin bout this!! and i often cry because of the tot of it!! please help me is it natural 2 look at a male body and get mildly turned on but when i see gay sex i feel sick? like i actually get sick! on the other hand i look at a female body and get turned on! i fancy girls but just really dnt fancy boys??! please help!!!
2006-11-05 00:43:07 · 31 answers · asked by mystery??! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't worry! You're probably at the stage where you're just interested in the differences in body types! Puberty does funny things to different people at different times in their lives, so just because you may admire some guys six-pack, it doesn't mean you want to have a sexual relationship with that guy!
Think of it in another way...If someone has a Playstation 3...you might like the way it looks, but you may not necessarily want to play with it yourself!
2006-11-05 22:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by bitemehard 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Cockney Sparra, Bi-Sexual means you have already done the actions and you like it and want to continue in that lifestyle. Bi-Curious is when you have not done anything sexually but are curious about how it would feel to do the actual act and then if you were still not convinced you may try it one or two more times before making a decision that it may not be fore you or you may make the decision that being Bi-Sexual is the right course or lifestyle for you and you could then make an informed decision ab out what it is you would like to do. Just remember that it it still your choice and you can say no at any time and choose not to participate in any Bi-Sexual encounters and you could be Bi-Curious all the rest of your life. However if you choose to try this type of lifestyle then you will have the answer to your question and only you can make that choice so do not let anyone influence or pressure you into what you would like to do. It is not a decision that you should take lightly as it will be for the rest of your life and you must weigh all options in making your lifetime, lifestyle life-changing decision. Good luck and may God Bless!
2016-05-22 00:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling your body is just maturing and needs plenty of time to settle in-so to speak. You are ONLY 13!
The way you feel about other mens pics maybe just your inner self wanting to look like them-possibility there.
I don't think you are homophobic either. You are just at the age when your body is coming to terms with it's self. As for you getting sick at the thoughts of gay men together did something happen in your past? If not, then just try not to be part of the gang and enjoy your life and friends no matter what life style they are. You seem to know what you want for your future at this point so just go with that at this point.
After all you are only 13.
2006-11-05 00:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by dragon 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a straight kid to me who is attracted to the opposite sex but also interested in what your own sex (as adult males) look like, for comparison purposes.
People generally know they are gay long before the age of 13. Bi tendencies may start to show up now but only time will tell for you. So far though, you sound like a straight dude just discovering his sexuality.
I hope this helps you. Don't cry over this anymore. Most of the people on here have gone through adolescence. You will eventually move on with your life and be satisfied with your sexuality, no matter what orientation you might be.
2006-11-05 11:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are neither gay nor bi. You are just going through hormonal changes that cause you to have a general interest in things sexual. Your identification is very clear: you are and always will be hetero, but you may have, as most men have, a curiosity about other men, if it's only for comparison. Your curiosity is normal and perfectly healthy.
Sit back and wait for the chemicals in your developing body to settle down, and don't expect too much from your first hetero experiences as you mature. It's like that for most men; the earth does not shake and you feel a little guilty.
You're fine kid. Just go with the flow.
2006-11-05 09:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because you get a little turned on when you see pictures of gay men does not make you gay or bi, you can think of sexuality as a gradient from straight to gay, you could be mostly straight, but, as you say, perhaps a little curious.
You find gay things to be sick, but getting truned on by naked men is "kinda gay", so you are at conflict with yourself, how you feel and what you think.
You cant change the way you feel, but you can change how you think. Try learning more about gay and bi people at the rate you can handle, at your pace. If you can be at ease with them, you can be at ease with yourself and then answer your question.
Hope that helps
2006-11-06 01:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by tysonian22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're only 13, but you'll know what to do to feel comfortable with your sexuality. If you're straight, then quit looking at pics of naked men. It shouldn't bother you so much if you KNOW you like girls. There should be no question in your mind. If you do like dudes, there's nothing wrong with being curious...all these feelings are totally natural, and I'm sure it's just a phase you're going through right now in like on your journey to figuring out exactly WHO you are! Good luck in love and life!
2006-11-05 01:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most teenagers go through this phase and it is nothing to worry about. The worrying thing is that you say it makes you feel sick, as that is a bit extreme. Maybe looking at gay porn makes you think about sex in general and that is what is turning you on. You are contradicting yourself a lot in what you say, so it is hard to help you.
2006-11-05 00:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are becoming what you just said what you don't want to be.You are becoming bi.
You are one of those mystical people who might be able to turn turn-ons around back to girls only.I'd advise that if you would like to stay straight,that you get therapy,get into a physical activity (Always helps),and stop looking at pictures of naked men!!!I am 14,so I feel your pain.Right now your body is trying to figure out what it likes and what it doesn't care for.Focus more on girls and less guys and you might be what you want!
I was in a similar boat last year.I found women attractive.It freaked me out,because I wanted to be straight and I didn't know what was going on!But,then I realized something-I find them attractive,but there was no lust involved.Unlike my reaction to guys.
As fo getting sick around gay people,maybe you should make gay friends!I have 3,and they are really cool!Sure one of em is a little fruity,but that just makes him even more hilarious!
2006-11-05 00:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
sweetheart you are only 13 rite now you have a full long life ahead of you! it is natural to look at naked People of the same sex and feel turned on by it! you are so young yet i think you are just beginning to feel the sexual pleasures and are just curious! give it time honey and you will find your true self! good luck honey
2006-11-05 04:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋