I hate when my husband kisses me, even if it's just a quick hello or goodbye kiss. Even when we first started dating many years ago, I didn't ever really enjoy a good snog with him. We do make love but not very often and if we never made love again I don't think we'd ever really care. Are we missing out on true love? Are people who are happily married romantically in love with one another?
2006-11-04 23:59:23 · 14 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you should ask yourself and each other, is if its a lack of sexual desire for each other, or is it just that you both have a low sex drive? Do either of you have sexual needs that aren't being met within the relationship, that you think someone else could fulfill, or is this just the way the two of you are? Have either of you cheated because of the lack of sex with each other?
Sex doesn't define love, and there are far more important ways to show someone you love them. People put alot of emphasis on sex within a relationship, and think that its a big part of intimacy,... and for most couples it is, but there are other ways to be intimate as well.... communication, fun, mutual hobbies, laughing together, just enjoying each others company....sex isn't the most important thing in the world, and you don't have to be going at it like rabbits in order to be in love. Not everyone defines the strength of their relationship or the validity of their love for a partner by how much sex they have.
If you or your husband feel that there's something missing, or that there are desires that you have that can't be fulfilled by each other,.... then you have a problem. But if you're both content, satisfied with how it is, love each other in spite of it, and its not affecting other aspects of your relationship at all,.... why worry about it? Maybe neither of you are highly sexual, and you're just lucky enough to have found a partner that's the same. It's alot better than being married to someone who's sex drive is the complete opposite of yours... thats the complaint most people have.
2006-11-05 00:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it really hard to believe you hate your husband kissing you EVER !!!! I think one of the nicest things to do is snuggle up and kiss. Sure after you have been married a few years things tend to slow down a little, but l think there is always a flame burning there somewhere it is just hiding at times. I do believe you are definately missing out on a wonderful experience. Sometimes the romance seems to get lost in our busy lives but the love for each other is always there in one way or another. The thought of never making love again is just terrible. I really feel sorry for the two of you if you have honestly never felt true passion and love for each other. Having said that it's never too late to learn. Trust me you may really enjoy it if you give yourselves a chance. Good Luck.
2006-11-05 00:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are missing out. One of the most sensual, and connecting things is a kiss. Start slow, and try to build. You need to get in a romantic frame of mind. Set a "date night" where he picks you up and you go out. Can be inexpensive, a stroll at the park, or something. Then, candelight & music. Good luck, and try! If you cared enough to marry each other, there is hope!
2006-11-05 00:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by heatherbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so in love with my husband and love it when we kiss and I want us to do it even more. If you have never liked it and your husband has no problem with it, maybe you are not missing out. You are definitley not missing out on true love, but in my opinion love making and snoggling make the relationship stronger.
2006-11-05 00:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with Jennifer L..........the 2 of you are emotionally separated. If you love and care enough to save the marriage you need counseling instead of just going through the routine motion of making love. You could be living a wonderful love-filled life together instead of just the routine humdrum. Good luck and hope you take the advice offered
2006-11-05 00:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely there is something wrong sweetie you need to rekindle the flame if you really want to save your marriage maybe even consider counseling.Or do it the good old fashion way romance him make a nice candle light dinner buy a sexy outfit and let it roll ...
2006-11-05 00:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand why u would marry someone u dont fancy. did ur parents make u marry him? was it a marriage of convenience? if yes, u should try u love him. focus on his positive sides. i dont believe u dont like everything about him. maybe theres something u like, maybe he never forgets ur birthday? or the way he cares for u when u r sick?
focus on his positive side. make it like u r trying to get to know him the way u try to get to know somebody u want to date. flirt with him.
if everything still doesnt work out, then call it quit. u both deserve to be happy and to be loved by someone u both love.
2006-11-05 00:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by miza n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've let the relationship get stale...do something to spice things up. There's no reason to let it get any worse. Do something about it now to jump start it...then you will have that romantic love back in your life. It takes a little effort.
2006-11-05 00:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love doesnt neccessarily mean making love, but i believe in a married couple sensual,passionate lovemaking is a key ingredient to bonding. so you could be missing out on something special,
may i ask out of curiosity, is it that you dont enjoy kissing/sex with him only or this applies to other people?
maybe you could see a sex therapist.
2006-11-05 00:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by evets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who "makes love" always but her husband still have sex with other girls.... they dont go out on vacation together... they are "happily married" for almost 10 years now....
2006-11-05 00:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by sharon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋