I'm very lonelyand I think it's time to move on with my life. What do you think I should do.
2006-11-04 23:42:30 · 29 answers · asked by wildman365 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-04 23:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is no telling how much time a person needs to grieve over a loved one who has passed away, sometimes it takes weeks, months, sometimes even years. At the same time you don't want to get into a relationship on the rebound just because you are lonely. If you are lonely and have doubts about getting into a relationship, take some more time and go out to social events and meet people, friendly people you can just hang out with and talk too. If you think t is time too move on, then move on at a reasonable pace, you don't want to get involved too soon, too quickly and have that relationship ruined, only to regret what you have done. Take some time too think about what and how you are going to move onto the next step.
2006-11-05 07:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by j.errington 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your wife, hun. If you feel that you are ready to get out there and start looking, then by all means. If what you are seeking is a friendship, then go for it. Just know that it will be difficult at first because you will probably compare every woman to your wife. But, if you feel that it's time to move on, great! Your wife would probably want you to be happy and not lonely. It may sound like it's a little too soon (just being one month passed the date of your wife's death), but sometimes that's what you need to do.
Once again, I'm sorry about your wife.
2006-11-05 07:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Each person is different. There is no time limit on grieving. I also lost my husband. I went to a movie with a gentleman 3 months after my husband passed. Then we went to dinners. I would say, take it slow. If you had been married for a long time, you may find things have changed in the dating game. I finally went to Yahoo Personals, had a few dates and found a wonderful man and we are still together. I will say again, take it slow. Good luck
2006-11-05 20:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I offer you my condolences and hope that things will improve for you.
The question you ask is one that I feel only you can answer. I am not in your shoes and can't judge how you feel.
I do wish to advise you that the situation you describe is traumatic and as a general rule these things require time to digest.
I fear that you are now going to get involved in a string of whirlwind relationships (rebounders) to get your mind off the situation. Ultimately you could end up having failed relationships because of guilt and lack of closure with your wife.
My advice to you is to take your time.
2006-11-05 08:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One month is not a long time. If you really loved your wife, you need some time to grieve. Any relationship begun now would be difficult becasue it's still too soon. It's OK to feel lonely. Just give yourself some time. You will know when you are ready to move on.
2006-11-05 07:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow....loneliness leading to a new relationship so soon cannot have a positive outcome.Perhaps you need to move on with your life in other ways-join groups,socialize,travel,rediscover your independence-to resolve your loneliness and to be in a better place to form something lasting without the neediness.Sorry for your loss,please don't compound it.Good Luck!
2006-11-05 07:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is OK to look for a female companion on some level. Maybe it'll help you through the mourning process. As long as the female is aware that you just lost your wife, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Sorry to hear about your loss.
2006-11-05 08:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not to soon but take your time and look for the right person. And think about your expectations from the person. She will never do things the same as your wife did. Some may be close but ....... You know what I am trying to say.
2006-11-05 07:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IM sorr to hear about that but it may be good news to you that one of my friends just got divorced from his wife and he was hoping his wife had died!!
My experience says 99 percent women are spoiling the life of men. Hence no use just mulling over a woman. Move on, go to a new place, get a new job and move on in life.
2006-11-05 07:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by dvkhnn 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
take it easy, you need time to grieve. Don't start up a relationship within the first year, maybe. Go out, have fun.
Don't feel the need to have someone in your life to feel complete. You should feel complete on your own, and anyone special in your life will be a bonus.
2006-11-05 07:46:10 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋