we've been best friends since were one weve told each other everything. But this year now that we've come to high school its likes she does'tn want to be friends anymore and she's been sad latly and when i asked her why she said family issues i asked her what family issues and she said its her buisness.
2006-11-04 23:24:42 · 24 answers · asked by nicole w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it certainly is her business!
respect her wishes, but if it starts to concern you more in time, ask again and tell her that she's your best friend and you only thinking of her well being... inform her that you are there for her if she needs a friend to listen
And if she opens up, LISTEN, don't judge, don't go into making suggestions, don't tell her "I know how you feel" - let her get it all out on her own!
Goodluck~
2006-11-04 23:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Dear Confused Bestfriend,
In this situation, you would have to understand that there comes a time when your friend won't want to discuss her problem with you. Reacting quickly and feeling as if your friend doesn't want to be friends anymore might not be the case. Assuming you didn't do anything wrong to upset her, try giving your friend some time to sort out her situation, and hopefully if everything gets better she'll be more inclined to discuss it with you in the future. In order to be a good friend, you have to be willing to give her some time for herself or else she may not feel as if she has any privacy anymore. High school is a time where people develop and mature. Many will try to become more indepedent and solve problems individually but that doesn't mean to say that she doesn't want to be your friend anymore. Give her some time to sort out her problem, and let her come to you for help.
Sincerely,
The Love Doctor
2006-11-04 23:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by The Love Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant get her to tell you something that she doesnt want to talk about. She will in due time when she is ready. It may be something that she is embarrassed about or maybe its something that she found out that has nothing to do with her at all. Best thing to do is give her the space she needs to work this out in her own accord. I know you want to be there for her because if the close friendship you two have always had. She may never talk about it with you or anyone else at all. She may bury the troubles within her own mind. Dont encourage her to talk about it, just simply be a friend to her as you always have been. Invite her to parties or a movie or whatever you guys have always done. Try to not be offended by her lack of willingness to tell you. She will have to come to terms her own way. Best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-04 23:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds serious, just stand by her. Tell her that you are there fr her when she is ready to talk about it and needs a shoulder to cry on.
The issues with her family may be really bad, she may not be saying anything because she might think u may think differently of her or something..
Just make sure she knows that you are there for her when she is ready. She will appreciate it, and make sure u tell her that no matter what is going on u wont think differently of her and anything u need you will try your hardest to help her.
Goodluck
2006-11-04 23:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by ca4btts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs time and support from you. She may be going though issues that she is ashamed of and just wants you to say hi and leave it at that.
1. Take time to say hi to her...smile...and walk away.
2. I know you want to help, but she's not ready.
3. Try to take time to say hi..and smile...to others also.
4. Sometimes when we have certain friends, we feel they can look right through us, and when we feel sad about something or are not ready to face it, we try to avoid them. We want to come back to them when we feel stronger.
5. If your best friend from before now continues to ignore her, then try to give her space.
Your feelings may be hurt for awhile and that's why I said to be friendly with others. She may come back after she has faced some of her issues without letting you know until she feels back in partial control of those issues.
If she sees you saying hi...and smiling...to others, that may make her feel comfortable again....also you'll make at least 1 new friend.
2006-11-04 23:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to tell you, you probably should let it be, she may come to you on her own, but you can't make her. It being a family problem, could be a WIDE rang of problems, anything from molestation, to someone being beat, or marriage problem between her parents. Don't try to make a big deal about, just tell her that you will be there for her if she needs someone to talk to. That is all that you can do.
2006-11-04 23:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly being a best friend does not entitle anyone to know everything about their friends.Your intentions maybe very honourable but u have to remember that u can help only those who need ur help or who ask u to help them out.the way things are there is not much that u or for that matter anybody can do.
2006-11-04 23:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by surendra s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what's on her mind Honey, leave it alone. Let her know your there for her, your her friend and you'll keep her secret when she's ready. Don't push her your only putting more pressure on her.
It could be anything from a divorce to something she saw. Leave it go. Be there for her though.
2006-11-04 23:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not pester her. Women r normally not able to keep any thing to themselves for long. Have patience, if u really love her.
2006-11-04 23:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont compell her to tell everything, let it be her wish. if u really feel horrible at it then try to console urself as well as tell her that whenever she'll be needing u she dont need to hesitate.
then surely she will tell u her problem one day.
2006-11-04 23:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by shradha p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋