Hi there.I'm A happily married man. I dearly love my wife and we have 2 beautiful children. We are together since we were 16 and have never had any other partners. However I have got this wee crush on another Woman in work. I know its a non runner.. as I said I love my wife and kids, and I am now avoiding her like the plague but I have to work very closly with this person and can't simply blank her indefinitly. A friend suggests that I should just discuss it with her but this seems to me to be like adding fuel to the fire. Has anyone any experience or advice they could offer?
2006-11-04 23:03:15 · 14 answers · asked by shaymeyabu2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A crush will go in time so don't worry about it to much. You seem in control of it anyway by staying faithfull to your wife.
2006-11-04 23:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could u do this to ur wonderful wife? afterall just 4 another unknown woman.. think of all the sacrifices ur wife wud hav done 2 u n ur 2 children, this crush of urs is gonna b the gift 4 her(ur wife) in return??
wht if ur wife has a crush, how wud u feel??
think and take decisions.. all tht glitters is NOT golden
as u stated " im a happily married man n i dearly love my wife" wht do u mean? r u lying or its jus coming from ur mouth not from ur heart?
take ur crush as ur sister n eventually itl b gone..
at ur age n experience u shud take quick correct decisions n not askg people their ideas..
think about ur kids n 4get the crush n b happy wth ur wife 4 god sakes at least.
good luck
2006-11-04 23:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all find other people attractive even though we are married or in a committed relationship......you just can't/don't take it any further.
Discussing it with her is not really an option...what would you do if she said she felt the same???
The crush will pass...and you will be glad you remained loyal to your wife
2006-11-04 23:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jane E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just a wee stupid crush...think about it...you have two beauiful kids...and a beauiful wife...your gonna hurt them...you will never be forgiven...Forget about this woman...what if you did have an affair with this woman...you'll be missing out on most of your kids life...what if this woman doesnt like your baggage...what if she dislike your kids...don't throw away something on a CRUSH! Come on be STRONG...find another job...do something to stop this happening...you'll regret it if it happened!!
2006-11-05 00:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend too much time at work. Take a holiday and take the wife and kids with you and cherish every moment that you have with your family. Next time you look at this woman at work, picture yourself explaining it to the kids....
2006-11-04 23:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by lily b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one way to deal with this, change your job. Putting yourself in the way of this woman will continue to jeapordise your marriage, and it's not worth it. You already know that this girl will not live up to whatever you have made her out to be in your mind and you will hurt your wife, possibly irreparably if you do anything stupid.
2006-11-05 06:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you really sure that everything is OK in your relationship?because i can't understand how on earth if you have good relationship you can think about someone else? if i could give you advise drop your children in your mum's home (or your in law's) and take your wife for weekend.. if you can't afford just lock yourself in home and spend some time just one on one.. woke up ur relationship..Passion.. and you will see only person what you will have crush will be your wife..
2006-11-04 23:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by KattyK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres one answer for this and that his TRUST .if for any reason you ant getting on with your wife before making a move on this thing you work with i think you should tell your wife..........................but if your not wanting to leave your wife snap out off this thing with this other woman and guess what the grass ant greener on the other side it could turn out really nasty but then only you know this i wish you all the best ................
2006-11-05 01:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd move departments or jobs or whatever it takes. You need to stay away from her at all costs. take the missus on hols. It will pass eventually.
2006-11-04 23:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask if you can be transferred to another department.
Either that or picture something in your head thats you'd find disgusting whenever she's around
2006-11-04 23:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋