my b/f wants to try something new ie swinging does this mean hes had enough of me after 6 years?

Question

or ami being silly and if we did would it harm or relationship

Answer 1

It probably means he's secure enough in your relationship to a) bring it up to you, b) he knows you won't leave him for another guy just because you had sex with him, and c) sharing you and seeing you enjoy yourself is a huge turn-on for him.

Will it harm your relationship? This is a common question. If your relationship is good right now, no. If it is rocky, it sure as hell won't help it and will probably make matters worse. Swinging won't fix a bad relationship, but it sure won't hurt a good one. Or as a non-swinger friend once observed, "Swinging is like the icing on the cake. But if the cake underneath doesn't have all the ingredients to make it solid, all the icing in the world won't keep it from crumbling."

There will be those here that tell you "No! Don't do it! It will ruin your relationship! He'll leave you for someone else! If he really loved you he wouldn't want to share you!" These are words spoken by those that haven't done it, or did it wrong (like to try to fix a relationship) and the idea absolutely terrifies them because of their own fears and insecurities. For honest, good information about it visit The Swingers Board (link below).

Answer 2

No one can answer that except your boyfriend. Swinging definitely has the POTENTIAL to change your relationship for better or worse, but whether it works for the two of you or not depends entirely upon you and your relationship.

It doesn't necessarily mean that he's sick of you (again, you would need to ask him). It just means that, yeah, he wants the two of you to admit that you're attracted to other people, and maybe act on it. How that impacts your relationship is going to be up to the both of you.

I will suggest that you need to do a LOT of talking before you take this fantasy out for a test drive. Sometimes it's best left at just a fantasy, and many couples will have talked about it for years before actually acting on it. But if you would both like to experiment with it, I think you should read up on exactly what it is, what it's not and get some of your questions answered. Do yourselves a favour, and do not assume anything. A good place to start is www.swingersboard.com They have answers to ALL your swing-related questions. Best of luck!

Answer 3

OH MY GOSH NO...he wants to add something into the relationship that hopefully you are comfortable with in his eyes. He must feel that your relationship is strong enough to sustain the swinging lifestyle if he brought it up to you. You have to understand something though. Swinging is a womans game. Women are in complete control of everything. If you dont want to do it...it doesn't happen.

Don't think that if you don't do it he will go out and cheat on you...you should only do it because you both mutually have an interest in doing it.

Answer 4

I am not sure of his motives, other than he wants to have sex with different people and is trying to include you with his thoughts. Or after 6 years he may be trying to find out if he truly knows who you are? And this is some stupid tests? Not knowing you or your boyfriend I cannot say what the motive is behind the behavior. I personally, would not do this, it just not my idea of a relationship. However, to each his own accord. I think it can be very difficult on a relationship. And you should go with your feelings, self examination. Is this something you are willing to introduce into the very intimacy of your relationship? ? Is this something you are ok with? Be completely honest with yourself, no one else really matters. I would not do it to please him. Do not compromise your own values, ideas, integrity, character, or morals. If you are not comfortable with this idea you should tell him, and he should respect that and leave the idea alone. This should be a much thought out and examined dissected choice. Absolutely, not to be taken lightly. Good luck and God bless

Answer 5

I don't think it means he's had enough of you. I think it means that he wants to add a bit of spice to the relationship, just make it a bit more exciting. Look at the first few weeks when you were dating. Things must have gotten a bit calmer since then. You have gotten used to each other, and something like swinging would make the relationship seem newer and more exciting. I would go for it if I were you, or if you didn't want to, maybe find another way to add some spice to the relationship. That's what he's looking for.

Answer 6

Since you aren't married to him which clearly he hasn't any intention of doing let him GO. Tell him that if he wants to be with others then he is FREE to do it. Pack up and leave. This would definitely be the end to your relationship. He is being entirely selfish. He wants his cake and to be able to eat it too. A man who is unwilling to excercise self-control of his desires and willing to allow other men to be with his woman is not the man you want to spend even 1 day more with; let alone another year. Stop wasting your time. You deserve better.

Answer 7

Just remember this - in almost all cases of swinging, the partner who first suggests it ends up bedding many of the partners outside of the relationship. So while you may be thinking "the three of us together", he's thinking "my girl will never find out we're seeing each other".
And then there's the good chance of disease because swingers tend to have many, many partners.

Answer 8

The act of Swinging itself does not harm the relationship. What harms it is how y'all feel about it after it is done. On the other hand I wouldn't want to be married to some one who thought sharing me with other people was fun. Also what if the other woman is better sexually than you are, he might want her more than you. So if you Love this man and want to marry him don't agree to it, but if all you want to do Frak and don't care who your partner is go for it.
P.S: Also if your boyfriend brought this up. There is another woman he wants to Frak, and he's trying to find out if it's okay with you.

Answer 9

It means he's been toying with the idea of sleeping with other women. On the other hand, he doesn't want to cheat on you. Unfortunately, I wouldn't know what it would do to a relationship. In my opinion though, I'd try experimenting with something else before that. Try something different with him, both in and outside the bedroom.

But, ultimately, you are the person who knows the best. It's your decision to make. Think it through.

Answer 10

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