Ladies, anyone found 27 a particuarly 'difficult' age to be?

Question

Im asking as I'm 27, & most of my close friends are too. I have noticed it seems to be a collectively 'difficult' age'. Or maybe not difficult as such, but just distinct from 26 & younger! Probably beacuse we are facing 30, but more than that I feel a change has occured & see it in my friends. suddenly, for the first time in our 20's it seems we are more conscious of our 'age' & issues relating to it. Can anyone else identify with this?

Answer 1

im 28 and i know exactly what you mean!Age never used to be an issue, and now it is, and it seems like the thought just came over night!

Answer 2

I understand what you mean. I have not had a very difficult time so far during this year since I turned 27 but I remember when my husband turned 27 and had the realization that he was not longer a kid. He said it was because at 27 you are officially in your late twenties and are therefore expected to have made some noteable progress in your life (whereas 26 you can still claim mid-twenties) and if you have not achieved the house and 2.5 kids and drive a crummier car people start wondering why and what is wrong with you.

I know that we are more aware of our roles in life than we were and introspective in a way that differes from the way we viewed and analyzed ourselves in the past. It also seems that since it is now almost 10 years since high school that those of us in my age group are all looking back and taking stock of what we and others have done. I just got married about 2 months ago and I remember right before I got married it seemed like all the others in my age group already had and were having children and such and I almost felt like I was running late, of course now after things seem calmer I feel much younger and realize that I still have a few good years left (though being young, free, and full of reckless abandon is something I never really did, I know that I do no need to rush other aspects of life either). I think this is the age that you start either realizing or painfully letting go of some of the hopes and dreams of your youth as well and wondering if this is really how the rest of your life will be.

I wonder if it is so much the age 27 itself of this specific group or the current social and political climate.

Interesting question, it sure bring up more questions in my mind.

Answer 3

God yes!!!!It was the worst year of my life so far I think. I'm 30 now and things are starting to look up. 26 is only one year older than 25 but yes 27 is a dark year as it seems to be the first year on the way to 30 and what do we have to show for it? I had just split with a partner, lost a house and a baby and had nowhere for myself and my daughter to live plus no job. Things are getting better but I'm still not ready to trust a man again.

Answer 4

i'm 34 now. However, 27/28 does seem to be that pivotal point where you start to leave your youth behind. You can no longer use your youth for getting away with things i found . People start to take you more seriously, but with that comes more responsibility. You may find older relatives die and that makes you think how short life is.

Also i felt that i had to start settling down in the sense of a home and some stability. My mum and dad couldn't be there forever. Also, school friends had moved on and settled down so there was no longer that group of us that met up for childish pranks and a few beers!

I started to feel old in nightclubs! The other clubbers looked like school kids.

But it's not all doom and gloom- age does bring a certain 'know it all' security to your mind that i didn't have at say 24. You also start to accept yourself more for who you really are.

I started getting called dear and lady and woman by teenage boys!

Answer 5

Have you considered that it might be a 'Collective' thing?

All these friends around the same age.... are maybe a mirror for each other - along with an awareness of the passage of time. And as some (as it were) 'move ahead' of the others, there is subtle messages being hoisted onto metaphorical billboards for the rest to see ~ and maybe measure the self against!

And, it's like as not 'you' measuring the self against - what / or / whos evers....!

Sash.

Answer 6

Yes, I believe so too.

It might be because we are rounding on the big 30. But I have done some polling, and chatting, and research. 30 for women is the equivalant of a man's midlife crisis I have found. Women who aren't married, are feeling a certain rush TO get married. Women who are married are feeling a certain rush to DIVORCE. Something about looking over the years and seeing what accomplishments or non-accomplishments kinda freaks us out. So we feel we need a huge change in our lives...marriage and divorce are huge changes.

I decided that divorce wasn't the answer, so I went to college and built a career, and have made that my big change. Now that I'm past the big 30, I feel more confident, love myself more, have more respect of my peers and family.

Answer 7

Yes I can identify with what your feeling,having past 27 and wondering where has life gone......

Now I look at everyday as a new day in the rest of my life and NOT to be wasted ,so I try to take the positive angle on even the worst day, this I feel makes me appreciate what I have achieved so far.

My girlfriends seem to be locked in **Oh Woe is Me** why or where have we gone wrong, having past 27 and in some cases (most LOL) no hubbies so body clock ticking TICK TOCK.
Then the rush or seems to be want to have babies which makes me laugh when some don't even have steady b/f's..LOL

So I see the issues we face choosing not to get married early.then having to either rush into marriage or to have babies out of wedlock.....BUT that's another question...bye bye... ;-)

Answer 8

Yes 27 is a difficult age...in the broader sense 26 to 28 is very difficult. Do u know why? this is the age when Rahu which indicates ur direction and purpose in this life comes close with your natal ketu in the chart(which is ur past life works). This is confluence of future and past and causes a lot of confusions.If you closely observe you can see many people die at 27 by accident or suicide. This is because of this conjunction of Rahu with natal ketu.
Rahu takes 18 years to complete one cycle. So it conjoins with natal ketu at age 9, 27, 45 and 63. These years are marked by confusion and chaos.Many people die of unnatural and strange reasons at these years. So its good to be careful in these years and avoid danger and pray to god to show a way out.
However years 18, 36, 54 are very good as Rahu makes a return to its original house in the chart and shows you your direction in life and gives you lot of oppurtunities and success.

Answer 9

I agree, at 26 you are still young enough to fool about like kids, you still do stupid things but everything is fun. The year I was 26 was the happiest of my life(so far) I was in love with a gorgeous man and he with me, It was a fabulous time. By the time I was 27, the man had gone and 30 was looming. Life did improve but nothing like the 26th year!

Answer 10

I can. I have passed this milestone and know what you are talking about. It is a difficult age bracket to be in because you are not a teenager so you feel old in their presence, and you are not middle age so you dont belong to that age group either. Try and get into a group of your age and arrange to go out together.

Answer 11

My worse (or most depressing birthday) was 29. Like you said, the fear of being 30. Up until then people referred to me as a girl, then all of a sudden I was 'that woman', hated it, felt like I was leaving my youth behind. now I think that the 30/s are the best years of your life. Mature (and a bit more sensible) but not yet old.