i have being in luv with a girl who i dicided to marry in future, she attends Jahovah witnes and i Presbyterian church . since the time i meet her, she has demanding i quiet my church to join hers before her congregation can allow us to get marry or allow her to get marry to me ....... i will like to ask are we not worshipping the same God Who created heaven and earth? and what is the difference between Jahovah Witness and Presbyterians?
2006-11-04 21:52:01 · 13 answers · asked by blueinaus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She seems selfish to me. Tell her if she loves you for who you're really are she should not pend your marriage on that condition. I would have understood if she were from a different religion or something and having worries about your kids' religion but that's not even the case.
Ask her how she'd feel if you make a similar demand! She is probably used to getting what she wants by putting pressure on people, but she should not treat you that way.
2006-11-04 21:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by rinah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run young man, run fast! There are many differences in their beliefs than yours, in fact many consider them a cult and brainwashed. The girls are taught it is much better to convert a boyfriend before marriage than you endure it after. There are not enough men in their organization so the girls are allowed to date outside if they bring the boyfriends in the congregation. If you marry her in time you will either be an outsider or one of them. The girls wait a lot of the times to educate you once you are accepted with the help of the elders. I made this mistake long ago and it changed my life. If you think about it you will see what she is doing is enslaving you. There are other churches that operate the same way and the man must be converted before any marriage. Be smart, there are other women out there. Her Kingdom Hall and elders come first always, if she does not obey then she can be ex communicated and shunned. If you remain with her you must understand that, she will do what they say first, you come down the list. I lived through it for 7 years. There are too many differences to list here in what they believe.
2006-11-05 06:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with her if I were you. The first answerer was right about them wanting to convert every one. Jehovah's Witness is definitely different from Presbyterians!!! My impression is that if this woman really loves you, she should try to learn to respect your wishes and differences. Sounds to me that she's using this to threaten you, and it doesn't look very nice to me. You know you should earnestly pray about this situation and ask other fellow believers to pray for you. You should listen to what God has to say about this not ours. Best wishes.
2006-11-05 05:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by claire d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big differences between the 2. Go see your pastor, and go to your local library, read about Jehovah witnesses.
As for me I would stop seeing her.I know that's a hard thing to do.
But its better then a divorce after you have children.
2006-11-05 06:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen,man! It matters what you believe in. If you consider your doctrine more relevant and unprecedented then do away with your girl! You will never agree on anything until your fundamental religous beliefs are the same.
She is not the last one on earth. All the best!!
2006-11-05 08:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by newmakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
witness believe that there is a maximum capacity for heaven space and they need to compete to get it and just so u know i bet my last penny that in 2 years after u marry her yull be asking divorce Q's because she is a drill sargent and a control freak (just a hypothesis)
2006-11-05 05:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. It is you who should take some decision. Matters relating to religion are sensitive. As you are not geting married immediately you have time to think it over.
2006-11-05 06:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesnt accept you as a whole package, beliefs in tact and all, she really isnt that serious.. she is thinking she will break and change you.. I know you might be heart broken, but end it now, or you will end up down divorce alley later.. There will be another girl sooner than you think who will accept you as a whole.
2006-11-05 05:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mintee 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow 2 Christians fighting about what church they will go to in the future as husband and wife.....hmmmmmmm
If she love u she not care if u love her u not care GOD is GOD.
2006-11-05 06:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her to marry with her god
2006-11-05 05:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by emil6702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋