5 years ago I knew a guy. I met him 10 years ago, but we were sort of acouple sort of NOT a couple. I was too young then. I am 23 right now. Before 5 years ago, we had a somewhat sexual relationship. Not a very verbal close one, but more of an understanding. Well, I recently caught up with him again, and we started seeing each other and eventually slept together again. He kept saying things like "no matter who you marry you will always belong to me" but not in that weird creepy way. I also have two children, and he spent an entire day playing with them. He kept holding my 8 month old son, and later told me he wants children in the future. Now, the way we are, and with him being how vague he is, I am confused. Was that at me, or was he saying he wants children just in general in the future? He says that he "cares" for me all of the time, but won't say the L word. I am in the process of a divorce from a man I did not know well and ended up getting broken bones from. Ideas?
2006-11-04 21:03:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I hate to generalize but it is so easy to do so and be on the money. He is under 25 he is immature and just babbling foolish stuff out of his head. I am sorry he is just confused as you are. Take time to develop your own understanding of your self. Don’t begin another relationship till your done with the one you have. Wait and focuses on being a mother for a few more years. Don’t go backwards go forwards.
It has little to do with the head your thinking of. Maybe one a bit lower... Men at that age use the head lower to the body more often. It is not till they are 30 they begin to use their heart and head above the heart.
2006-11-04 21:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. I don't think he sounds like he wants to make any commitment right now. You have to ask him right out what his intentions are. Are you two having a friendship with benefits? Are you two now together because it's soothing to have someone familiar around, from your past?
Other than the sexual/intimate aspects of all of this, does the guy seem to be potential husband material? Does he have a good, steady job? Does he keep out of trouble with the law? How does he treat his parents or grandparents? When you two have disagreed in the past, has he ever come close to physically harming you? It sounds like he gets along with your kids, so that is a definite plus in all of this -- but being a good father is not necessarily the same as being a good husband.
Good luck, dear. I hope everything works out well for you. You have my best wishes.
2006-11-04 21:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I wish the same about women. There is an old country song that pretty well says it "The ways of a woman and the wants of the world, to figure them both out will take many years". Good luck
2006-11-04 21:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by auhunter04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stable job removing the assh ole! yet now you seem to have picked up an emotionally indifferent variety of guy. Please be careful with this guy. The 'consistently belong to me' remark is a splash psycho, notwithstanding in case you notice it that way or no longer. i might motivate you in looking a guy who isn't afraid to enable you to comprehend he loves you, while the time is stable, and is no longer afraid to tutor you via his strikes each and all of the time. i might additionally recommend which you you artwork on attending to comprehend your self returned. be sure the place you % to be in a twelve months, 5 years, and 10 years. recognize in case you have made stable or undesirable judgements related to adult males up untill now and settle on in case you could desire to make a metamorphosis. ultimately, do no longer settle for a quite stable guy once you will possibly have the perfect guy for you. you're an sensible lady who's able to looking after herself. it somewhat is extra suitable to flow and not utilising a guy for a mutually as somewhat of having in touch with a guy who isn't ideal for you. you have lots driving in this now, no longer basically your emotions, however the emotional and actual wellbeing of your toddlers, too. i've got have been given a bad feeling approximately this guy you'belong' to. Please evaluate each little thing and make careful judgements. stable success!
2016-10-21 07:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want someone to do the impossible. Even though it may seem simplistic, men are NOT all alike, no one can explain their minds to you. The only person that can give you a good explanation of how he thinks, is the guy who you are talking about.
2006-11-04 22:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see only some sentiment and sex. No future some L no meaning. He didn't say he wants kids with you, just he likes to have them in the future. Don't have too much imagination.
Two kids is big luggage for anyone.
2006-11-04 21:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He said, "no matter who you marry you will always be his" is WEIRD! NO way, when you have somebody else or marry someone else- this guy is no longer in the picture as a boyanything- he's apart of yr past. I say- Move ON.
2006-11-04 21:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really hon, I think you should get professional advice on this. Ground yourself so you know what you're doing. And ask him what he means. Don't be afraid!!!
2006-11-04 21:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant probe to deep into men's minds I also have a phobia about deep space!!!! LOL.
2006-11-04 21:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's going through my mind is that your title has little to do with your paragraph. What is going through YOUR mind? That we are all the same?
2006-11-04 21:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by furshluginer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋