Who is worse? The cheater, or the cheatee?
Is there ever reasonable justification for this type of behaviour?
Is it possible that these two people could ever have a successful healthy relationship?
Have you ever been in this situation, and in which role? How did it end?
2006-11-04 19:58:41 · 12 answers · asked by Mikisew 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please Note (!!!!): I am not in a relationship where cheating is involved. This is my first question on Yahoo... I should have put this in earlier. Please rest assured: I am simply trying to understand the behaviour of a personal friend. This type of situation has only ever touched my life in the form of cheesy sitcoms and bad novels before now.
2006-11-04 20:15:23 · update #1
They both are wrong....wrong ....wrong.....
There is no justification in my opinion......Cheating is a choice made by each individual.......
successful healthy relationship beginning with cheating??????
That's not rocket science.......
I hope you are doing a study or something....and not looking for justication for being one or the other....cheater..or cheatee........If it starts with cheating..its gonna end with cheating....Nature of the Beast.......
2006-11-04 20:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she does not know he's married then it is all on the man. If she SUSPECTS he's married and does nothing to investigate then she is partly responsible. And of course if she knows, well she is equally responsible.
And no I don't believe either could have a healthy relationship, they would have to ask themselves why the were in that situation to begin with.
Say for instance they husband DID leave his wife (and/or family) for the other woman, would they both not be wondering when the other would find someone new and repeat the cycle?
2006-11-05 04:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by ~moon~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both, but chances are that the woman that cheats with the man usually ends up getting hurt way worse because the man will never leave his wife, even though he'll continually say he's going to. So the woman in the situation will usually end up paying ten fold for what they both do even though the man will probably walk away mostly unscathed.
2006-11-05 04:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the husband who is the wrong one because he's the one who's married and if the woman he's with is also married then they are equally responsible. I wouldn't go after the other person, I'd go after the person that I was with because they are the one who's supposed to be with me not the person he is cheating with. Sometimes these other women don't even know. That's how cheaters play their game.
2006-11-05 04:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me and I thought that if I cheated it would more or less make us even and heal things but it didn't. Then years later I had been with my boyfriend for 2 years and thought that he was "THE ONE" and we always had a nice sex life with each other so we decided to get a girl for both of us but that turned into chaos afterward.
2006-11-05 04:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my experience,the cheatie was my best friend,so,they were both pretty much responsible for it.If you are aware of the person being cheated on that is your bad.If you're not ,then look out because he's probably hitting it somewhere else too.My ex husband now has 2 other kids with one woman and another baby on the way with a 17yr old girl.What does that say?He's 32
2006-11-05 04:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by holliela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMO the man who made the vow and breaks it is guilty. If the woman is also married and breaks her vow, then she is equally guilty.
I have never been in this situation. It seems like it's worth avoiding. I understand divorce,not cheating.
2006-11-05 04:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Susan M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man who cheats on you because He knows better the woman probably dosent know that he has someone else, and even if she does know she dosent have a commitment to you the way he does!
2006-11-05 04:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by new_dad_92904 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The cheater is worse. I would never get involved with a married man, not knowingly anyway....but if I did, it would be his responsibility, not mine. He would be the one who has broken vows.
2006-11-05 07:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The cheater is the one breaking vows. It is wrong to knowingly pursue someone who is married but the greater crime is committed by one who sets aside their commitments and vows.
2006-11-05 04:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by Cain 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋