Ever since my ex and I broke up he has fallen into drugs, drinking and chewing tobacco. Even though we are broken up and he has done a lot of things to hurt me, I am still concerned for his health.
I was thinking about writing an anonymous letter for his mother and putting somewhere I know she will get it.
Is this a good idea?
I don't want him to be purposely in trouble and I don't want this to be a way to just get back at him, I just want it stopped because I think it's stupid what he's doing. I tried talking to him about it, but he won't listen. Help!
2006-11-04 18:30:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Should I tell his* mom or not?
2006-11-04 18:30:48 · update #1
She's pretty used to people telling her about her kids, her daughter was sent to couseling for a cutting problem.
I have moved on, I have a boyfriend that I love very much.
2006-11-04 18:36:28 · update #2
AJ - No, I really don't care for him that much, lol.
2006-11-05 06:41:28 · update #3
I think writing an anonymous letter is a wonderful idea.
his Mother should know because his health is in danger
As long as he doesn't find out you wrote it, things should be fine.
And if he does find out u did it. Let him know that you don't want him to get hurt and u care about his health. If he hates u in the end oh well he's not worth your worries.
2006-11-04 18:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a short note to her is in order, preferably one that you sign as yourself. If you don't feel comfortable with that, it can, of course, be anonymous.
In any event, simply tell her that you're concerned for her son because of the risky behaviors (name them) that he is doing. Tell her that you hope that she can help him get the help that he needs. Apparently, she has been down a similar road before with the daughter, so that may help.
Then you let it go. We don't have the power to fix someone who doesn't want to be helped.
BTW, she probably is aware of the problem, anyway, unless she hasn't seen or heard from him since he began his downward spiral.
2006-11-05 02:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends, he might resent you for it, but if it's a really serious problem that may get him hurt or killed, then it might be better to have his mother or someone close to him know and try to get him the help he needs. However it may also be considered by some to be sticking you nose where it may not belong, but I doubt that his mother would consider it to be meddling and might ever consider you to be a better person for making her aware of the problem and maybe after he gets help he may even thank you. Best of luck to you and yours. Good Question! - James
2006-11-05 02:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because his mom might say your saying those things out of spite, because you two broke up. I would suggest telling a teacher or school counselor or someone who might be able to help.
2006-11-05 02:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling his mother is not going to stop him from destroying his mind and body. He will have to hit bottom first and then he may listen. My advice to you is move on to other relationships. Do pray for him!
2006-11-05 02:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you cared for him as well you warned him, then that is enough. His mom would naturally defend him from outsiders anyway. Move on and know you tried. I think you still care for him more than you implied.
2006-11-05 04:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your school counsellor would be a good start.
Don't tell his mom. Mom's tend to always believe that their children are good, she probably won't believe you.
2006-11-05 02:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Luken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never snitch on anybody if you cant take the heat
2006-11-05 03:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by allawishes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋