I am over-weight and yes I need to loose weight I agree I am a fatty. Okay and I am insecure with my bf and I don't know how to over come that. He tells me there is no one he rather be with then me so why do I still question it? Another thing is once a month of course I have an odor that comes from my vagina that he has made comments about but not to me but to other people like my brother and his aunt saying that I stink but I take a shower every day and wash but it still has an odor coming from there and he hurts me every time by telling every one else that I some times have an odor problem insted of coming to me about it.
My two main questions are: how to get over my insecureties
and how to handle the odor between my legs besides washing there...
2006-11-04 18:08:50 · 5 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Please don't marry this guy, he has no class, and he has absolutely no respect or concern for you.
People treat you the way that you allow them to treat you. You need to tend to yourself first and be healthy, before you can be in a healthy relationship. If you are insecure, there are so many different ways to build confidence. The very wrong thing to do is to lock yourself in an abusive relationship.
As far as the medical condition, it's just that, a medical condition. You need to discuss this with your doctor.
2006-11-05 12:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to rethink the fiance status...maybe dump him and find a new man. also if you are having that much odor maybe try a different product and changing it more frequently. there are several things to try (pads just seem to hold bad odor and reek) there are the instead cups, tampons, or the moon cup or the keeper cup http://www.keeper.com/ also avoid the scented ones... i hate walking past women that smell like scented menstrual products...its like eww shes using a scented pad. try maybe baking soda, change them alot. if the odor is that bad you might have an infection, bacterial infections can sometimes smell worst when you have you have your period because it mixes with the blood. in that case you should see your doctor and talk to them about it. i don't think you need to get over your insecurities i think you need to kick your boy in the *** and tell him not to say such rude inappropriate things to other people how embarrassing does he not care that he hurts you...honey drop this looser and find a nice guy.
2006-11-04 18:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have low self esteem and that's why you can't believe him when he says he only wants you. Maybe you could exercise, walking is good. When you exercise your body secretes hormones which make you feel good. It will probably make you feel better about your body too as you may lose a little weight.
Regarding the odour, I would see a doctor as there may be something they can do. I believe that you can buy deodorants for the downstairs area so check that with the chemist.
If you really feel terrible about yourself, maybe you could go to a counsellor. Talking about it can often help.
2006-11-04 18:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Katya M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A very sensible question, and it's a good thing you asked for help rather than keeping it to yourself. I'd advise you to see a doctor- she (probably a she) would be much better at helping you than I would.
As to your insecurities, if he's being that horrible about it, and if he continues to hurt you, then he doesn't sound like a very nice person to marry. I would talk to your friends about it, and ask them to be unbiased when they answer you. I wish you the best of luck my friend.
2006-11-04 18:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Link 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is very immature and has no regard for you or your privacy as a couple.....I would consider this behavior before tying the knot.
2006-11-04 18:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋