lazy is not the word should i just be a slob with her or should i keep naging
2006-11-04 17:57:19 · 25 answers · asked by cyberhighbenator 2 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
tell theres no more tongue tornado until she cleens up the house that should do it
2006-11-04 18:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Barry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her to pay for a cleaning service?
Seriously, my husband is always complaining, and he does have a point. But, when I do try and clean up, he complains again. It's not done right, or I'm throwing out the 100 million videocassettes that he's seen once maybe 10 years ago. And he complains more when he's in a bad mood -- so I tend to tune him out.
Sit down, ask her what her standards are, and how *you* are doing in the housecleaning department. Divvy up the chores, and keep a chart.
Also, you should both take a look at Flylady's website. She's amazing -- she makes you feel good about yourself, and she might help your wife with any issues about housekeeping. I know she's done wonders for me. The living room, kitchen and hallways are all very reasonable since I started reading her stuff.
And I hope to god that you are helping her out with this, and not just being a nag (who leaves his underwear on the floor). You married a wife, not a mother!
Communicate with each other! Find a minimum, and figure out how to make it work in little babysteps.
You both deserve a clean house. And if she just can't get her act together, *you* deserve a clean house, so follow Flylady, don't whine, and do what you can. Good luck. I'm going to get off the computer and clean up the office now, so you helped me (-:.
2006-11-04 18:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some ideas of ways to help make your house less overwhelming to keep clean and clutter-free
1) rent a storage unit to put all the stuff that you don't need in your house on a daily basis This will free up some space (and head space too).
2) plan to invite friends over twice a month. this will probably motivate you both to make your home clean. This has worked wonders for me.
3) if you can swing it financially, hire a housecleaner once a month to do the hard-core cleaning.
4) after freeing up some space, go to IKEA and get some organization items that will provide a particular place for things.
5) you can buy the most amazing easy- read book on freeing your life of clutter Clearing the Clutter for Good Feng Shui by Mary Lambert.
angela
2006-11-09 20:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by flymetothemoon279 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she want to do stuff together. She is not motivated maybe because you are not helping her at all. Do you ever put your dirty dishes back to the sink and not leave in the dining table? Help her in a little way. And if talking to her is not gonna help there's nothing you can do but tidy your self or get rid of her! Hahaha lots of people I know who is slobs. And marrying one is the worst thing you can do.
2006-11-04 20:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither - lead by example - tidy up after yourself and if there are a few extra dishes in the sink, clear them away as well. Nagging won't work and will lead to constant rows.Detach your mind completely from her habits and concentrate on your own, without comment and without resentment. If she leaves her stuff on the floor, step over it and still keep your own stuff tidy. Control what you can and let go of the rest.
2006-11-06 06:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a slob with her... if you both work, then you should equally do the cleaning, or if she does not work, then yes, she needs to do something... let her know that you don't like living with all the mess... tell her if you fill the trash, I'll take it out, if you do the laundry, I'll help fold or put it up, if you clean the tub, I'll clean the sink and toilet, I'll empty the dishwasher, you fill it, etc... keep laundry baskets around always and tell her please put your clothes in there b/c your going to throw them in the floor anyways, so you might as well take 2 steps and throw it in the basket.... Hope I helped and good luck!!!
2006-11-04 18:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by jrbside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both work together the jobs will be done quickly and easily. Either that or if one of you does the cooking an shopping the other should do the cleaning and tidying up
2006-11-04 20:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult question to answer...Does she work? Does she have babies to care for?? Is she sick with any illnesses? I would sit down with her and in a gentle manner speak to her about this matter...Unfortunately being a women myself, Women are expected (I know it is the year 2006) ..to do the majority of cleaning...which usually pi....... off many women including myself...If that doesn't work maybe both go to a cousellor to figure out why she does not like to clean......
2006-11-05 00:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jody K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set an example you and the (Kids) do it it's usually the husband and kids that make the mess any way.Once youv'e done it she'll know how it's done because men do everything to perfection , And then hire a cleaner for your poor wife.
2006-11-06 23:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't like housework , then you do it. Tell her now that you clean she can go cut the yard and take out the trash. This should get you out of shovelling the snow and picking up after the dog.
2006-11-10 07:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Muffett : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nagging makes it worse,makes them want to ignore you and do it even more. I would stop and clean up your part,even start packing some boxes. No sense with living in a pig pen with a person who doesnt care about their home!!! I like to take pride in my home.
2006-11-08 16:30:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋