I am married and I am strongly attracted to my best friend's wife. We have kissed and done other things. We are both torn...What do we do?
2006-11-04 17:46:05 · 14 answers · asked by NYfun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you guys should be ashamed of yourself. I suggest you tell your wife the truth,and she should tell her husband the truth because they're going to find out sooner or later and it's going to be worse... if you feel this strongly about it then you should leave your wife and stay with the wife's best friend you can't possibly love you're wife if your going to cheat on her like that...and i want to say this again: YOU SHOULD BE ASHAME OF YOURSELF YOU DISGUST ME!
2006-11-04 17:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have already done enough to ruin two other peoples lives. You crossed the boundaries of, betrayal, commitment, and a list of other morals that you both do not have. You have gone this far, you just as well finish it. Get a divorce. You both obviously crossed the lines. And you both don't care for your partners so let them go so they can find someone that will be true to their marriage vows. What did you expect to hear asking that question when you both already know the answer.
2006-11-04 17:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess that depends on if you want to keep your marriage, doesn't it. And if you want to keep your best friend?
No one on this site can help you assuage your guilt. You are a turd already for cheating on your spouse. I appreciate that sexual attraction is potent and strong. So now you have to make a decision. Is sticking your dick into a new vag worth losing your best friend and your wife? If it is, then tell them all, get separated, and carry on in the open. Because if you do NOT come forward now, you will only hurt...HURT everyone even more than you are already going to.
2006-11-04 17:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, nothing quite like the forbidden fruit of a friends wife.
Nothing good can come of it, even if it feels good in the moment.
First of all if you are hitting on your friends wife, even if she is hitting on you and you are going with it, he is clearly not a real friend.
Ask yourself what possible good could come from the two of you getting together? It will ruin your marriage, ruin your friends marriage and in the end, ruin any hope of a relationship with this woman.
It has "doomed" written all over it.
2006-11-04 17:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by taotemu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly I am tired of all these hypocrites sitting around judging everyone else. This person asked for advice not to be condemned to h*ll. Some of you should be ashamed of yourselves.
Now my advise is for you both to take inventory of your marriages. Is there any love in the current marriages? Are there any children involved? Children deserve to have happy homes. The both of you need to weigh the benefits of leaving your marriages against the disadvantages of leaving.
2006-11-05 07:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it now, and realize how selfish and unacceptable you behavior is to God. If you have to ask this question then you already understand that you are both wrong. To know that you are in sin and not turn away from it.. is blasphamy. May God strengthen you both and provide the grace you need to do end this before you tear other hearts apart.
2006-11-04 17:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by N_UrDreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was "truly" your "best" friend you wouldn't have kissed his wife...and done other things with her....and you are married...stop now before it goes too far...it's only going to cause severe pain for all paties involved...
2006-11-04 17:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Teena R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you discuss it with your best friend's wife what you guys really want, and how you will break the news to the people involved.
The truth should be known; how you guys feel about each other; how you feel about your spouse; how you feel about yourself.
2006-11-04 17:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by chatthetree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to remain best friends STOP!!!! If you choose to go for it there are a lot of lives that are going to be ruined. Think about it!!! You have to put an end to it.
2006-11-04 17:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by kitten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop. Its more than likely lust. Hope you dont have any children to involve in this confusion. Think how this would feel if it was the other way around. I hope things go well for you.
2006-11-04 17:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sophiegreeneyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋