I am with a guy now who has mentioned marrying me (both offhandedly and seriously) for the past few months. However, I just don't know if he is serious or if this is just a ploy to keep me interested. Would a man (age 25) ever mention the word marriage, and discuss a future together, if he didn't really mean it? I just don't want to believe it, if he does not have the intention of really marrying me.
2006-11-04 17:30:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They do it alll the time, just to get a woman in bed, then he's gone with the wind, on to the next " lay". Have you ever heard the term" tell them what they want to hear". well if thats what you wanted to hear , he got his way saying it!
2006-11-04 17:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by PAUL B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he is just trying to see if you are interested in a lifetime commitment, and finding out what your plans are for the future. That is a part of dating. Wouldn't you want to know if the other person wants children or to get married before you invest your heart and time into the relationship? I would. Talk to him about all your dreams and wishes, so that one day when the time is right, and he is sure that you feel the same, he can pop that special question and the two of you can live happily ever after. Good luck!
2006-11-04 17:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. At 25 most men haven't a clue about life and what marriage entails. Ask him what he means when he says that. I suspect he will tell you he is serious. Don't let that fool you.
The best advice I can give woman about us men is to ignore everything we say. We speak for only two reasons. First, to be right. And second to get sex.
How do you judge the intentions and deep yearnings of a man if you can't believe anything he says? Purely by our actions and behavior, especially under stress. Until you have seen how he behaves when he is stressed out, you haven't a clue what he really thinks of you.
Good luck!
2006-11-04 17:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by taotemu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my first long term relationship with a younger guy. Now see I am in the same situation wondering the same question!! I don't know why but something tells me they will say whatever to get whatever IT is that they want at that particular time. If he dosen't make you feel special then how do you know if either of you are ready for marriage. Best regards 20/f/co
2006-11-04 17:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by kilokellz101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heavens no! A man never mentions the word unless he is really serious. Most 25 year old men would turn and run at the mention of the word.
2006-11-04 17:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speaking from experience...yes. But I can't tell you if this one is for sure. That is something you have to find out for yourself. Most of the time when I have heard this it has been to fool me into sleeping with them. But this was in the very beginning of things. If you two have been together for some time now then ask questions. Ask simply, honestly, if he is serious. Ask him what he wants out of marriage, what he wants from you as a partner. But first decide if you want to get married. Its hard to ask those things, but if you want to know for real, ask.
2006-11-04 17:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man. My ex husband only married me because he was unemployed & he knew I really loved him & I would take care of him . I found out years later he felt this way. He said I was the perfect woman to marry, he had booty calls on the side. He just needed me financially & to cook & clean for him. After the divorce he continues to say he cares for me & he loves me, but I found out the hard way what kind of man he really is.
2006-11-05 13:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it really depends on your relationship though. He could just be trying to get you to sleep with him or if you are already sleeping with him, he might just be serious or have some alterior motive that I can't think of right now...maybe he's just trying to keep you around until something better comes along. Sleep with him now, see what happens. Sex can be just about fun anyways! If you think he's just waiting until something better comes along, go out with him to his usual hang out and ask your friends what you've heard. Usually if he's an attractive male, girls will talk to him. Watch how he acts. I was that something better with my now fiance haha he was dating some stupid woman. He never lied to her but, she thought things were serious for whatever reason...he won't ignore that something better when she's around though and my fiances ex her friends told her something was going on but, she was just too dumb to listen.
2006-11-04 19:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man in the same age group, It is possible that he may be leading you on. Sure fire way to find out for sure next time he says it ask him when.
2006-11-04 17:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's testing the waters to see how you feel.
On my second date with my husband he said I could really marry a girl like you and I was like like me hm mm I don't have a sister brushing it off...it's funny because he did marry me.
2006-11-04 17:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋