is it wrong to be married but in love with another?
2006-11-04 17:23:16 · 35 answers · asked by twisted 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can't help who you love. maybe the person you're married to wasn't meant to be who you got married to. i believe everything happens for a reason. just be careful, unless you've acted on your thoughts and are 100% sure of how you feel for that person, just remember that thoughts can be deceiving. love is so often mistaken for lust.
2006-11-04 17:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by manda 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad and confused you must be. It is a very cruel world we live in so please marry the one you love, otherwise you will break the heart of one man who loved you enough to marry you.. A spouse really does know when you are in love with someone else, even if you are not sleeping with them....it's always very evident especially if there are get togethers and your spouse observes the interaction between the two of you. My question is why would you intentionally hurt the one who did marry you. Did you know that during the duration of your marriage you will fall in and out of love with the person you are married to simply because of the daily arguements and differences you have. We are to persever until we love that person again, for love is actually a choice. Please do not sleep with this other person if you care anything for your husband, analyze why this other per is so attractive to you and make an INTENTIONAL EFFORT to love the man you are married to. Take it from one who's husband has not smiled or slept with her since the day they married, for the same reason... that his heart is not in it...
2006-11-04 17:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by N_UrDreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's wrong to be in love with someone else and your married but i do think that you need to check the pros's and con's to see if your love for the other person is real or just a strong attraction step outside of yourself for a minute and look at what you need and want only you know whats best for you but don't be blinded by unreal expectations
2006-11-04 17:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't use the word wrong until you acted on it without discussing it with your spouse.
You should take time and ask yourself what you really want. Are you actually in love with that other person? If so, how do you know? If the answer is "I just know" "I do" "I feel it in my heart" those type of answers are not sufficient.
You should also ask the question: "Am I in love with my spouse?" If so, how do you know?
You might also feel "love" for another because you have other unresolved issues in your life.
Best of wishes.
2006-11-04 18:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by chatthetree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick question: Are you IN-Love with your spouse? I don't mean love..but are the two of you in passionate love? If the answer is No, then you are wrong to stay in the marriage with him because you will not return the same love to him that he gives to you.
If you are madly in love with your spouse and still in love with this other guy..I think that you are ok...it may be just "lust" or if you are in-love with this other guy because of other qualities like: he is great with kids or he donates large sums of money to the poor or maybe he is just a great person...this would be an "infatuation" and not love...
Are you following? Follow your heart and you body will follow suit!
Good Luck!
2006-11-04 17:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by nikc_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. If you are in love with another person to where you plan on sleeping with them or having a relationship with them, then it's wrong.
However, If you are in love with another person but do not plan on doing anything that might jeapordize your marriage, then you can do something about it now.
You do not have to tell your spouse that you are in love with another person (unless you plan on divorcing or seperating from them) because you haven't actually had an affair with this person yet. What I suggest to get over this "lust" feeling for another person, is to keep yourself busy so that you keep your mind off this person. For example, do volunteer work, give advice on Y/A, spend time with your spouse and kids, spend time with your friends, do projects around the house, clean your house, go to the movies, etc.... Do anything productive and sooner or later your mind is off of this person.
If you communicate with this person, do not take their phone calls and do not email them. Remove their phone numbers and/or email address from you database.
Do something about it now, before it's too late and might do something you might regret.
2006-11-04 17:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, all of us marry the incorrect human beings then sounds like in case you seem at it that way. i'm skinny and love seashores and different tourism places yet my husband isn't basically obese yet additionally hates travelling altogether. i might like for him to initiate liking travelling and get in extra suitable shape yet I nonetheless love him for how he's with the help of the fact he replaced into the comparable as quickly as I married him and that i knew the deal i'm getting. in case you have no longer have been given different issues than this i do no longer think of you married the incorrect guy or woman in case you like her this is all it concerns and you could properly be happy everywhere and don't would desire to flow to seashores.
2016-10-21 07:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Surely there is someone else in the world who is as worthy of our love as our spouse. Probably a few people. Love is not sex. Marriage can sometimes be without sex or love. Marriage is belonging completely to someone, which is what makes it rediculous that anyone would do it, but we do. Whattayagonna do?
2006-11-04 17:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that is not only a dumd question but an immature one.........love is not jus a feelin it is a choice. When u choose to love someone like ur husband for example..........you have to choose to love him everyday. But if you let a fascination with someone become a choice to love them and u are married it shows immaurity on ur part to control ur feelings and understand the depth, seriousness, and commitment of love.
2006-11-04 17:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse it is what the hell kinda question is that
and anybody who says it isnt (and im sure there probably will be) why dont you get married and see how it feels to have the person you marry in love with someone else
would it be ok with you ?
2006-11-04 17:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋