surrogated mother?

Question

i am 48 yrs old married male and not become father so far due to biological problem wife . Although i am having good sex with wife . And both of us enjoy that moment till ejacuationbut she is not able concieve. Now iam looking for sarrogated mother. My question is that i have to go through the same process for having child from her as normally done by husband and wife or something else.?

Answer 1

most of the time it is done through ivf, using an embryo from you and your wife....sometimes, if the wifes eggs are damaged, a woman will allow her egg to be used.

Answer 2

No you would not being having sex with your surrogate they would collect your sperm and then artificial inseminated your surrogate. If your wife’s eggs are ok, it would be possible to extract them, fertilize her egg and your sperm in a petri dish and then implanted it in your surrogate. You could also get a donated egg from the egg bank and have that fertilized and have it implanted in your surrogate. Surrogacy laws vary by state I think in some states the surrogate can actual change her mind if she is not only the biological mother but birth mother too the situation can get very sticky. In some states even if the surrogate isn’t the biological mother she may be able to get rights because she is the birth mother and there for the legal mother. You would also have to think you would have to pay for each procedure and it might not all ways work right away , sometimes you might have to do several rounds and each of them will cost you and its not cheap. Then most likely you have to pay for your surrogates medical bills during her pregnancy.

The above poster friend is clearly confused there is nothing wrong with surrogacy. It takes someone truly strong who is willing to carry a child for 9months for another couple, even more if she is donating her own egg. A child certainly will not be damaged by taking him or her away from the person who carried them for 9months they wouldn’t know the difference. I speak from personnel experience I am adopted my birthmother had some addictions; I have never felt abandoned or un-whole. I have a mother she is my mom in every way that is important. Surrogacy babies are essential adopted least by one of the parents if there is a couple involved and the egg was donated. The baby would bond with the mother who is going to raise him or her, that would be your wife. If a newborn baby’s mother dies or disappears they don’t know the difference it would mean nothing to them.

My brother and his wife had to use a donated egg, so she was my nephews surrogate mother, he is a perfectly happy 6 year old little boy

If they were going to use a sperm donor and surrogate then they might as well just adopt. Why be a part of creating a baby that is not biological his or his wife’s when there are many babies/children already out there that need good homes. Look at Donald Trump he’s in his 60’s and he and his 30 year old something wife had a perfectly healthy baby boy. David Lettermen was also up there in age when he fathered his son Harry.

These sites may be of some help to you – Good luck with whatever you decided and also just remember whatever route you go be it a form of surrogacy or adoption. The baby will be yours and your wifes regardless of DNA

http://www.surrogatemothers.com/
http://www.surromomsonline.com/
http://www.eggdonation.com/
http://www.surrogenesisusa.com/
http://www.surrogacy-solutions.com/
http://www.creatingfamilies.com/

Answer 3

Usually it is done in a fertility clinic where they take youtr sperm and the surrogate's egg and put them together outside the body, when they appear to have fertilized they implant them in the surrogate and she carries the babies. sometimes this fails also but a bett er chance. It's expensive unless your ins. pays. I'd have a prob;em with my husband sleeping with a surrogate, or anyone, then it's too personal. I have heard of people taking the sperm and using a turkey baster and implanting themselves. You'd really need to read a lot on this and find out when and how soon. I'm sure the timing is very important. Then what if she kept the baby? Lots to consider. Why not adopt a baby. If the baby won't be your wifes, can't you also love another person's chil;d too, like you are asking her to do?

Answer 4

Are you sure the problem is not with you? Why don't you try and adopt a baby. 48 years old is old to father a baby genetically and if you are having trouble conceiving and decide to use a surrogate I would suggest a young sperm donor should be used.

Answer 5

let me leave with you something a friend told me:

Surrogacy is NEVER in the best interests of the person who is created in these circumstances.

How can it be anything other than damaging for a newborn baby to be separated after birth from the only person it knows..it's mother?!? Nature does not intend that a child be taken from its mother within minutes, hours, days or weeks of its birth. This is the critical time of "bonding"; the very foundation-stone of physical and emotional wellbeing in the life of the human child.

Sometimes, through death, abandonment (or adoption)....a child loses its mother. Hopefully its father is able to protect and nurture it...with support from family and friends. A newborn child, (whose mother has died or disappeared), is vulnerable and grieving for its profound loss. I would recommend that you read Nancy Verrier's work "The Primal Wound" for a deeper understanding of the effects of separation on mother and baby.

It is becoming increasingly acceptable to "create" a child through IVF surrogacy arrangements. This requires two women to contribute/participate in the child's conception through ova donation and gestational surrogacy. Perhaps people who embark on this process believe that a child will not experience loss because neither the genetic nor gestational mother are
"wholly" connected to the child. I think that a child created in these circumstances will feel a very deep sense of loss that it does not have a "whole" mother in its life.

Do read Nancy Verrier......she will illuminate your way as you ponder these profoundly important issues.

Answer 6

You don't have sex with the would -be surrogate mother. It's by ivf she becomes pregnant with ur child. Anyway, pls consult ur doctor for professional help.

all the best....

Answer 7

You should both see a fertility specialist.

Answer 8

I will do this for you for a good amount of money! :) I love being pregnant