2006-11-04 16:44:38 · 20 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey
well you know my intake on that! definately not love. he wants the power over you to control you . and you dont want to be with a guy who just uses you.
2006-11-04 17:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are signs that the guy thinks he owns you and this is the way guys like this act. He is possessive yet he doesn't want other guys paying attention to you but he wants to 'have it all' at the same time including the warped idea of a 3 some. Well, you are one smart girl and you think correctly when you say a guy can't truly be in love with a girl and also want a stupid sex act including another girl. Yes he is ignoring his jealousy (sounds more like possession) though just so that he can think what he wants to do is ok. Well, since you are onto his scheme so good, tell him how you feel about it like you explained in your question and don't let him try to sweet talk you otherwise into doing these weird practices. You lady are your own person and you don't have to settle for this twisted idea of a good time. He doesn't really love you because if he did this stuff would not even enter his mind and I am sure you are already aware of that. If he gets mad at you or tries to pull a guilt trip thing, tell him you're breaking up with him. Watch his reaction to it and if he really has feelings for you he isn't going to want to lose you this way. If he doesn't care then he isn't worth the relationship in the first place and you will be better off. Take care and do not do anything you don't want to do because it is ok to choose what you want. Take it from someone who knows how they think. =)
2016-03-19 03:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Shane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he can love you very much and ask if you would like to swap. However, If you tell him no and he brings it up again that is not loving behavior. If fact it is very disrespectful of your feelings.
He probably has a fantasy about this behavior, and just wants to make it real. A step lower than swapping is role-play. You could pretend you were a famous movie star for a night. (I would steer clear of people you really know.)
2006-11-04 17:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way on this Earth that a man can love you and still want to swap. True love means that you also respect that person. He does not respect his wife if he wants some other man to have sex with her-or him have sex with another woman.
I have known a few couples who tried this form of entertainment. None of the marriages lasted longer than 7 years. That is because there was no true love involved-only selfish sex.
2006-11-04 16:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure if Love is the issue here, but I am sure swapping and keeping a good marriage does not work .
He probably looks at sex as just a game, but long term, it's not and will create problems.
2006-11-04 16:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe but im not into that myself cause its like why would you swap when you have all you need at home he has other intentions that change things for good and that will never leave you cause you will always wonder is he making love to me or is it somebody ells he is thinking about so my answer to you hun is think about what im saying cause you will have to live with this for the rest of your life one mans oppinion
2006-11-04 17:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because if he is considering another woman then he really doesn't care about your feelings, therefore, this isn't true love.
A man who really loves their wives/girlfriend/partner wouldn't even think about another person. If he really loved you, you would be the only person on his mind and the only person he spends his energy on.
2006-11-04 17:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, if a man wants to swap, how could he possibly love you, knowing hes setting you up to be laided by another man, that is down right insane ...l would find someone else..and tell him to go for it on his own..
2006-11-04 16:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absolutly not, and that lifestyle can ruin a marriage. Because any man who wants his wife to get involved in a lifestyle like that is only thinking about himself, and his own sexual pleasure.
I've been in that lifestyle, and it almost destroyed my marriage because I was wanting to meet other couples and didn't think of what my wife thought, I was only thinking about who I was going to have sex with.
Thankfully we have been able to overcome that lifestyle and are free of the lies of that lifestyle.
We have been going through marriage counceling and it's made a huge difference in our marriage and has helped us to change our priorities, and focus on each other first before ourselves.
2006-11-04 16:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly... I doubt it... talked about it a few times and it seems to me that when we were willing to talk about it the marriage was already over. Email me if you want to talk.
2006-11-04 16:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by stanmanin92 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋