Usually I date people that are attractive but find that they are usually consumed in themselves...now that I'm older I think I should go for more....what do you think?
2006-11-04 16:06:08 · 15 answers · asked by billyboysblue 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Sure, sure, I know it's a cliche, but it's also true. What you may deem unattractive, someone else will see absolute beauty. Don't let the TV be your guide.
That being said...
Go for who your heart tells you is right for you. If you find a gal that has so much in common with you, is balanced with herself, is exactly what your heart desires - do it. If you are the type of person that can't handle an exterior (assuming a girl is "ugly"), if you can't help but stare at the mole on her cheek or that one snaggle tooth... don't even lead the person on.
You also need to take a good look at yourself. What about you makes you special enough to judge beauty? (And I'm really being serious here.) I have heard guys that say all sorts of things about "ugly" chicks and they're in no way any sort of catch, though are under the impression that they are. Will this "ugly" girl be able to handle the gorilla-hair legs? Your one bump that won't go away? The lack of shape to your jawline?
Habits are another thing altogether.
So really what it comes down to is this: What can you stand? What doesn't bother you? What do you want? Can you handle a girl that may not find you attractive (who isn't herself) rejecting you because you don't fit *her* profile?
Good luck in your search. :)
2006-11-04 16:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Madame Gato 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have dated unattractive guys before. Physical appearence isn't that important. My boyfriend has beautiful blue eyes, kind of a dopey smile, well toned arms & a bit of a pot belly. If he was a jerk I'd hate his doopey smile & be repulsed by his pot belly. But because I am in love with him I think his dopey smile is cute, gaze into his blue eyes & drool over his wonderful arms.
But there is a reason we use the word "attractive." Attractive people attract our attention, positively. And you can see what a guy looks like immediately, but it takes a while to see what he's like on the inside. And the less attractive he is on the outside, the more attractive he better be on the inside to get me interested.
I actually feel more comfortable with the 'kinda cute" guy. Too attractive & they can get stuck up. Too unattractive & they can get a complex.
2006-11-04 16:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Smart Kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never date a person based on their looks or weight or anything else. Right now there is a guy at work who is just huge and nothing to look at but he's the nicest person down there. Yes, those who are attractive very often will let you know just how attractive they are!
2006-11-04 16:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If i do no longer locate the guy captivating, i do no longer see how i ought to have a efficient dating with them. regardless of the shown fact that, if the guy is barely unattractive by potential of prevalent standards, then specific i might date them. no longer each and every guy appears like Brad Pitt or George Clooney (and hi, no longer every person even thinks those men are captivating!).
2016-12-28 13:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by putz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet !!! You often find that unattractive people have a lot to offer if they are nice in that they don't have the outer surface to attract people so they must work on their inner selves to befriend others. It is said that you don't love a person because they are beautiful, but they are beautiful because you love them.....
2006-11-04 17:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
attractive ppl think the world revolves around them, and you would be included in the world part. unless you want to revolve around them....stay away. they are to high maintaince too shallow.
you a need a simple person, who is still pretty...but simple and sensible treats you like an equal and values you for your brain and it adventurous and spontaneous. in the long run you should be able to talk the person and be able to have meaningfull conversations about things that matter and not arguments over stupid things...try to find someone you have something in common with. someone who could cherish you and respect you.
2006-11-04 16:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by entelectual h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated someone who felt she was unattractive, but she obsessed so much about it, I had to stop dating her
2006-11-04 16:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would, and i have - and i found that the person become more phsyically attractive to me the better i got to know and grow to love them as a whole human being - there really is so much more to a person than just their appearance.
2006-11-04 16:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by canuckgal49 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea but there has to be a real love for it to balance and your should think theyre attractive at least a little, just think could you wake up to that every morning yes or no
2006-11-04 16:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by ceesteris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can someone be unattractive if they are nice?
oh, you mean physically attractive. well, which is more important? (it's nice by the way)
2006-11-04 16:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by hot.turkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋