I dont know for sure if she would do it but part of me already knows something has happened. I have chosen to forgive her already for whatever she does. May be stupid but im willing to stay here and get my butt kicked and be put through hell everyday just for the chance she will pick me again. Of course i will be devastated if she does because that ISNT her way in the least. But oh well if she does its all my fault :) i mean i cant sleep or eat or anything for that matter when she goes out im messed up lol help
2006-11-04 15:54:00 · 21 answers · asked by eyeneeder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when our loved one cheats and betrays our trust, it takes time to trust again, we sometimes need alot of communication, we need to expose it, we need the one who hurt us to acknowledge it, and be accountable. she can't just rush back into the trust she once had for you. communicate your love to her, and show her by your actions that you can be trusted again. u didn't respect the boundaries and stepped over the line, there is consequences for that, so she needs her emotional space right now, until she can feel safe with you again. takes alot of communication,and alot of understanding to move past infidelity. give her time and be understanding.
2006-11-04 16:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me your relationship is the beginning of the END. You had an affair, and now your scared to death your wife or whatever is going to play "pay back's a *****". Wow! What a mess! When will this stop? Apparently you two aren't handling this like mature adults? Since this is not happening, I'd say the sooner you two put a closure to your suffering, the better. If you BOTH choose to be mature, seek help, and work through all the steps to sincerely save your relationship, go for it-YESTERDAY. Just remember-what you do/or say to each other today, can never be taken back. Good luck!
2006-11-05 00:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should realised the consequences, then at the first place why you start an affair ? You are now in the same boat as her, when you are having an affair, so you can taste the feeling better ? No ! I'll don't think you can trust her because she also lost trust on you.
2006-11-05 00:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is funny as heck. She really knows how to get you where it hurts after YOUR affair. She is keeping you on pins and needles now making you wonder if she is going to cheat on you now after you did it to her your self. How does it feel to think the one that you really do care for just might cheat on you? That has got to be a gut wrenching thing for you to be taking now. Who knows she might cheat on you and she might not cheat. But you have no room to say a blooming thing to her since YOU are the one that did it to her. You had better start treating her like the queen of England or something. Treat her like there is going to be no tomorrow at all. Hope you can sleep good tonight not knowing what the good woman has on her mind now. ha ha ha Makes you really wonder now don't it.
2006-11-05 00:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man you better kiss her butt everyday and tell her you are sorry for ever screwing around.Then maybe if you are lucky she will let your cheating *** stick around.If she does decide to do the deed remember that you opened that can of worms.Best advice for you is work really hard to show her how much she means to you and that you would do anything to make it up to her.
2006-11-05 00:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just thinking about, all the cheating posts I see here on Answers. And I started to think about my guy. I would never, EVER cheat on him. I adore him. Even when things suck, I love him more than anything.
How do people cheat on eachother?
I can't even imagine enduring the pain of someone cheating on me.
If you cheated, you must not really love her. Or if she cheated, she must not really love you. That's the only thing I can deduce from cheating.
2006-11-05 00:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should have thought about that before you had your affair. You should only be so lucky to have it done back to you. Maybe then you'll truly realize then the hurt and pain. Right now have fun wallowing in your paranoia.
2006-11-05 00:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah you definitely opened a door you don't want opened.
She now has free license to cheat.
Your relationship is doomed and you are jsut sitting around waiting for D day.
2006-11-05 00:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband had affairs which is why he is my EX! I never one time thought about "getting even" with him. I think there are two types of people, those who cheat and those who do not. Hopefully your wife is one who does not.
2006-11-04 23:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely hard to get your trust back. Almost impossible. That is why I am in a divorce now.
2006-11-05 13:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋