several problems here. our house which he did not pay mortgage for 5 months will forceclose in 2 weeks , my emergency money spent on getting my transmission fix which he has to pay half of the bill (i know he wont pay) hes not telling me what the outcome on the house is ...i asked him-- has he paid it and he says NO! then i asked him if he will pay it he says "i dont know" ...he has been a real jerk and all also he cashed out my chldrens mutual funds ...now i really want to get away from all this emotional tension hes been doing to me , i just want to get out and move to another state. after reading all of this problems can i just move without notifying him , we both have lawyers. how much trouble will i get in doing this?
2006-11-04 15:29:08 · 18 answers · asked by maya v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T DO IT! From experience. I tried to go on a vacation for a week and was slapped with an order preventing me from leaving the COUNTY pending further judicial proceedings. In the courts eyes there is no reason to jump ship and prevent a parent from seeing their child. It doesn't matter or state, city or social status. No one can change the rules. You just can't do that if there is a court document stating that he has any rights to seeing the children. If there is not, (of course talk to an attorney) from the 3 attorney's I consulted with and the one I retained, each parent is due 50 50 time with the child until such document states other wise. So you could go for 6 months. That is only if there is nothing saying he has ANY visitation rights. I can't enforce that enough. I am not an attorney but had an ugly custody battle with my oldest daughter. MONEY talks when it comes to attorneys. So start saving NOW. I wish you the best of luck with what's to come.
2006-11-04 15:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does a kidnapping charge and federal prison sound? That's how much trouble you will get into. You do NOT have the right to move and not tell him where you are taking the children. I suggest you calm down because YOU are the one playing the DRAMA queen here and causing your OWN emotional tension. You sound like you need a therapist rather than a lawyer lady. As far as the mortgage, where were you when it was supposed to have been paid? If he cashed out the kids mutual funds then go to your lawyer with the proof of it and take him to court over it.
2006-11-04 16:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have papers been filed??? If divorce papers/custody papers have been filed and the case is still open you have to notify him and court and have to have permission to do so.... if they have already been filed and the case is closed and its NOT in your papers that you can't relocate without notifing him then you can moved without telling him! I just went through all of this crap and in my divorce papers it said that I couldn't live outside of 75 miles away from him so when I decided to move 100 miles away I had to give him a 60 day written and verbal notice and I had to give the courts 60 day notice! Hope some of this helps... and btw if you don't want to move you can try a restraining order agaisnt him... and take him to court and make him pay half of all debt that occurd during the marriage... that is what I did.
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2006-11-04 15:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by sexymama2420052000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest you cannot move to another state without his consent. He is still the father and by law he has the legal right to either agree or disagree with where you are moving to.
Since you have a lawyer ask him or how you can draft a document stating why you think it would be in the children's best interest to move to another state without "him."
It sounds like you have been through alot but you have to be strong emotionally for yourself and your children. If you don't you can really make matters worse! Take a deep breath and think things out. Write down what you need to do and seek help from those who are close to you.
Things will work out in the end because you are doing your best. Don't worry about him....he will get his just deserve!
2006-11-04 15:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by ye 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask your lawyer, and do what is advised.
You could lose your children doing otherwise.
You picked the wrong fellow some time back.
Now you have to suffer a little, or a lot,
but he is the father of your children
and he has rights and responsibilites
just as you do. You do your part,
and when he doesn't do his, use the court.
The lawyers will get all the money.
2006-11-04 15:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do a thing until you have talked with your lawyer! Without knowing full details of the court ruling on the children, you could be in serious trouble.
He sounds like a real piece of work.
2006-11-04 15:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably but not sure, you say you both have lawyers so I suggest you talk to him/her about everything that's been going on. Can't really help out a lot of things would depend on a lot of things. But why hasn't your lawyer been doing anything about this. are you sure you have a good lawyer? GL
2006-11-04 15:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your lawyer, do not talk to your X. Tell your lawyer what has been happening; he will advise you. Talking to your X will get you no where. Do not move - you could be in voilation of the divorce decree. Always communicate with your lawyer first.
2006-11-04 15:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anne B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A LOT!!! you need the courts to say its ok.. You can not move out of state without a court order releasing you from the state. you can make the judge make u stay permanent. or lose your kids for kidnapping
2006-11-04 15:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by M M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋