My husband and I have been married for going on 4 years. Ever since we got married he has asked me if I would sleep with another woman and him. Is this normal for him to keep asking me this? How many women have had a three-some with another woman and their husband/boyfriend? Men what are your views on this subject? Why do men want this so much?
2006-11-04 15:17:31 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is very common in desire, not so much in action. As a man, I have often fantasized about this with my own wife. We even talked about it and almost went through with it. However, while discussing it we decided to research it. I read the chapter in the Guide to Getting it On (best book ever) and a few other articles. A lot of the time a threesome can lead to problems in a relationship and lead to its ending. We decided not to go through with it because of the risks. The desire has not gone away but I love my wife more than I want another woman. There are other ways around this too. One thing that helped a friend of mine in the same situation was making videos. He and his girlfriend made some videos and watched them while having sex. It added some spice and gave the feeling like there were others involved. Let me know if you would like to know more.
2006-11-04 15:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Abyss 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most men have this fantasy when the are younger and still immature. When a guy becomes mature and gets married, he usually has enough brains in his head (on his shoulders) to realize that real life isn't a fantasy. If your husband will not drop this subject, I first hope that you have not had children for him to teach his womanizing ways to. Secondly, he is showing you the worst type of disrespect that he can. Tell him simply that if he cant respect you and your values, he needs to hit the road and don't look back. He is really not going to be faithful to you either. At some point he will look outside the marriage for his little interest to be fulfilled. I am sorry to tell you this, but my father destroyed our family when I was a child with this type of behavior please trust me on this one. Leave him while you still have a chance.
2006-11-04 15:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion there are several ways to look at the issue. I could be simple sexual exploration, however in this case I think it's a simbol of dominance, men like this because it's a way of feeling power. My advice to you would be to consider all reasons and consequences, what you consider good and what you consider bad.
I have experienced many 3somes and have even enjoyed poly relationships, the poly relationships have ended due to someone moving or reasons beyond anyone's control and we are still friends.
Some have ended in less than good terms, so it depends on the parties involved, if its something you are curious about then by all means go ahead, you pay your bills and don't need anyones aproval, if you don't feel that you should do it then please don't.
Either way if it doesnt bring you and your hubby closer then you guys need counseling or start working on a divorce agreement.
Hope it helps, if you feel I can be of more help please im me, I dont mind
2006-11-04 16:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK DON"T DO IT! I was with my ex for seven years and he asked me the same thing! He said he thought it would be hot! I finally gave in and did it.... and as fun as it was for that one night I totally regret it now. Me and him are now divorced ( not soley because of that but it has a big part in it) and a year after we were divorced I found out that he slept with her ( cause he didn't when we were all togather he didn't touch her) behind my back and he got her pregnant! I'm telling you no matter how much he says he is ok with it and how much he says that he only wants to be with you but wants to see you with another girl.... it always ends up something else! Tell him you will do it if he is with another guy... I'm sure he will be quick to change his mind!
Tee
2006-11-04 15:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by sexymama2420052000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it is not the normal. When you marry someone, you take a vow. That is in the eyes of God and your family. You never bring a third person in. An Absolutely NO NO. Any questions, ask your true heart. It will tell you he is in to himself more than he is into you. Oh by the way would he sleep with you and another man????
2006-11-04 15:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL thats a line from a Dave Chappelle stand up act. But I've wondered that myself- As a guy I'm pretty straight forward and honest when a question is posed to me and my g/f has complained that she would like it if i just "lied" to her from time to time. I do sort of think that sometimes women want to hear what they want and don't necessarily want the truth and those magazines are trying to get women to buy them so.....they tell them what the want to hear. Cheers :)
2016-05-22 00:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A threesome is the number one fantasy for men. Yes, it is normal for him to ask. However, once you have made it clear that you are uninterested it is NOT normal for him to continue to ask. Its a respect thing at that point.
I have not had a threesome, so I can not advise about what it is like.
I am personally not opposed to the idea of a threesome, as long as I got to choose the female joining in.
Do not give into pressure. This is a marriage of equals.
2006-11-04 15:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has watched one too many porn films.
You keep saying NO. Do you want to be with a woman?
Your hubby has gotten porno type visuals in his mind.
He should be thinking about the woman he is with,
and the feelings that he is feeling.
don't you dare throw out the converse -- another man with yall.
You just keep saying NO, and let him dream on IN HIS HEAD,
that little one.
2006-11-04 15:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not normal and the reason men want it so much is lust in their hearts. Not much love in their hearts. How can they be with all that lust? That's why they disrespect women so much. If he truly loved you, cared for you and respected you, he would not keep asking you to do anything you didn't want. He doesn't see your heart or mind, only your body. That's not right. You are a whole person and deserve to be respected and loved. And all men are not like that.
2006-11-04 15:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by wv_country_princess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't recommend this in a marriage. This makes the cheating border unclear & leaves room for suspicion.
There was a man I used to know who said that this isn't all its cracked up to be. It's very hard to fully satisfy 2 women.
2006-11-04 15:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by IMHO 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋