espesially girls
what can I do to improve my social skills
2006-11-04 15:16:43 · 6 answers · asked by ImaGman 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Be a Little friendlier
try to start a conversation
2006-11-04 15:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by dragonboydude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your trying to hard. When around girls don't be thinking so hard on how to act or what to say. That gets in the way of having a good conversation. Just be yourself. Relax more. Again be yourself. And don't worry about what others are thinking during your conversations. Do you feel you have to improve your social skills because 10 people told you so? If not your fine the way you are.
Take care.
2006-11-04 15:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in situations that would bring out your social skills. Go to socializng events - parties, dances, etc. Each one you go to, make yourself do a little more. Start with saying "hi" to a girl, then start a conversation, and then - if there is dancing ask a girl to dance.
If you dance with a certain girl more than once your conversation can get more personal by telling her she is an awesome dancer. She will probably say the same about you so you have more to talk about other things like school or your jobs. Ask non-evasive questions about her, she may ask about you. You are now friends; if you are interested in her as a gf be respectful towards her.
2006-11-04 15:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find when I cannot hold a good conversation with someone, it's because instead of listening to what the other person is saying, I am either thinking of myself (i.e. how I look or what the other person is thinking of me), or I am thinking of what is important to me (i.e. not giving the other person value, and thinking of what is important to me, such as errands). Bottom line, I cannot be a good conversationalist when I am focused on myself. The key to being a good conversationalist, is being a good listener. The key to being a good listener is by giving more value to the person talking and what they are sharing, then to yourself. The best way to improve your social skills is to truly have a serving attitude. When you seek to serve and make others seem more important then yourself, they will immediately be drawn to you. It's really a heart attitude that draws others to you.
2006-11-04 15:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Choochie Larue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile, act friendly, talk about what they're interested in, agree a lot, and when they ask about you tell them what you're interested in while still being polite.
Don't talk politics and try not to stay on one subject for way too long.
2006-11-04 15:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen.
2006-11-04 15:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by jph_photographer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋