My friend moved in and has been here 1 month. He is hardly ever here except for to sleep and shower. I asked him to pay money 3 weeks in his stay, he laughs saying he could get his own place then. And then we asked him to leave in a week that was almost 2 weeks ago. HE IS STILL HERE and acts like these living issues were never discussed. I am sick of having this talk, it has only been two times but you know what I mean. Why doesn't he offer any money, I do not get it? How long does he wish to stay here?
He doesn't even share toilet paper, carries it to and from the restroom.
Hangs out with friends all day and they feed him at their house or restaurants.
He has a part-time job and a masters degree. I do not want to get into an argument and lose a friend over this crap.
2006-11-04 15:06:43 · 11 answers · asked by tramany77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get blunt about it. Tell him that he needs to either cough up some money or move out. You are not his mother and he is not your responsibility. If he still refuses, write up a bill, take a copy, and give it to him. Tell him to either pay it or get out within a week, and if he does neither, call the cops.
The man is a smooch.
2006-11-04 15:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find it too diffcult asking him again and again (as he will give excuses) maybe telling him that perhaps he should get his own place then and would probabley work out better for him anyway give him notice either verbally or via written form but that you will need some contribution towards the food and other things he uses.
If he refuses to comply, tell him that that you are going to have some relatives staying for some weeks or work done on the house and he cannot stay because he would be in the way. It has been nice having you, but now I need the space to decorate and since you haven't paid me any rent, I need what money I have to pay for the decor and so cannot afford to give anything free anymore.
If he still isn't comprehending you, change the locks on the house because he doesn't seem likely to pay you anything no matter how you put it and because he has no tenancy agreement, he can abuse your hospitality whilst he still has access to your house that he seems to have little respect for you or your generosity.
Or - confiscate toilet paper, do not feed him and do not give him anything he can lay his hands on, and if he asks, just tell him that you are skint and is there any way he can buy some stuff himself?
This is a difficult one but the more assertive you are, the more he will get the message - hopefully?. An ulimatum will clearly upset him and he may react unexpectedly, so it might be an idea to have someone with you whilst confronting him, but this cannot go on the way it is and I know how hard it is to be assertive when somone is behaving so careless and self-indulgently and he sounds quite unprdictable from what you say. I would try all of these things with him and as a last resort, throw his things out and change the locks.
2006-11-04 23:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a freeloader he thinks that cause he's just there to sleep & shower that he dont have to pay for his stay. Wrong!! give him a week-end to move out & if he dont put his stuff out in the yard & change the locks!! tell him to get his own place then and u dont need a friend like that if he's using you...u were doing him a favor by lettin him move in,now he's taking advantage of that
2006-11-04 23:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by cynthia f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that other's take advantage of good people.
Put his stuff out on the curb change all the locks and call the cops if he doesn't leave. FYI If you let him stay to long it can become his place of living then you will have to take him to court to get him out.
Hurry and get him out before it is too late. Take it from someone who knows from experience. This can happen to you too.
2006-11-07 14:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by why argue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt offer money because he's playing you enough to get it all for free. er go he wishes to stay for as long as he can keep sucking you in......
Solution.........Kick his asss out RIGHT NOW, or when he heads out to his friends place grab his stuff and throw it all out on to the lawn, when he gets home and wants to "deal" with itremind him that you wanted him out a long time ago.
The reason why this is happening is because you're allowing it to happen. You need a backbone, when you find one USE IT!
2006-11-04 23:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Daily 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb! tell him that his college days are up and he has to start his real life now! He has a masters degree!!! He'll come to his senses after he settles into his home and he'll thank you.
2006-11-04 23:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rabidactyl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack his bags have them by the door ask for your key when and only when he gives it to you give him his bags and close the door, NO problem no more talking, you are being used
2006-11-04 23:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
set a time limit and stick to it. since he feels he can get a place of his own then make him. hes a grown man and you shouldnt have to take care of him
2006-11-04 23:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
post his email here and we will all email him the link to this thread,, if he doesnt get the hint then, as one british lady puts it
"tell the old cod to sod off"
hahahaha!
2006-11-04 23:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mintee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell him to pay u at least half of what he owes u and if he cant accept that tell him he has to leave and if he doesnt leave leave all his stuff outside and lock all the doors.
2006-11-04 23:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋