How can yo be married to someone take the vow....promise you wanna be with them forever...and then just change your mind??? why??!!!??!?!?!
2006-11-04 14:58:32 · 18 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im only hurt cause im drinking....
2006-11-04 15:02:03 · update #1
i couldnt and i have never understood how 2 people can be married and love each other then get divorced and hate one another i mean i get the divorce part but how do you go from love to out and out hate??? srry i know i didnt help lol
2006-11-04 15:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all did the guy marry you then decided to get a divorce? He may have not really wanted to get married in the first place. maybe people were pressuring him into it. Maybe there's someone else. you'll never know unless you ask him. if he doesn't answer he's an a@#. He's a guy. Most of them are like that until they figure out that you women are what makes us complete. At some point he'll probably try to get back with you once he figures out what a big mistake he's made.
2006-11-04 23:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know how you feel, happened to me. But my eyes are opened now, I was told that's how life is. Some only look after the body and sex not the soul of a man or woman, and we don't try to consider that, he/she is my best friend forever. I have noticed that some people have the need for instant gratification and if they aren't instantly and constantly entertained, they go looking for the next "great thing." As much as it saddens me to say this, I have to. This is the way that marriage is being interpreted in everything we read and watch. You're not happy, get happy by divorcing your husband. I loved my wife enough to work through every fight and keep our marriage going.When I was married someone once referred to me as a Stepford Wife/husband because I tried to keep my wife happy. By not hanging out after work or on the weekends I would wear that badge proudly to because instead of me going out until the wee hours with my friends, I'm home with her and our kids. But here it is 2:30am like before I'm here @ home with the kids but no wife. She informed me before she left for that next "great thing" I was talking about earlier. She didn't want to be married to me anymore. They say that life is messed up, we live in a "me-oreiented" society. Whatever feels good do it. Make yourself happy. if you don't want to stay married becuase you're not happy, get out and do what feels "right" or makes you happy.
2006-11-04 23:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most people who go into a marriage don't realize it will be hard work, not just kissy-kissy I love you all of your married life. It is not a vacation, you will bug them and they will bug you. You will want to leave at some point and so will they, but if you love each other, you will make it all work. Some times you win and sometimes they do.
2006-11-04 23:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will love my soon to be ex forever and a day. I am the one who filed. I couldnt stay and get my heart broken over and over again. Things got too out of control that I just cant be with him anymore.
I am sorry you are sad and drinking. Be honest with your spouse/ You have nothing to lose. Good Luck and God bless.
2006-11-04 23:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you really weren't ready to get married but you did it anyway.
If one person has changed their mind.....no matter how much it hurts the other person should get out of the situation before getting anymore vested.
Then the person who is left should get a few weeks of counseling because a situation like this can do damage to your self-esteem.
2006-11-04 23:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes at the beginning you just feel lust then it leaves and you realize you didn't love the person in the first place so you want to leave and find someone who you actually did love and have things in common with.
2006-11-04 23:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by alaskasnogurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were caught up in the moment. The initial rush of a proposal and planning a wedding, then when it's all over reality hits. He/SHe wasn't being very honest with themself.
2006-11-04 23:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by kmchris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess we should not get married young or before we have known our partner for at least 5 years
2006-11-04 23:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were obviously some doubts before the knot was tied. Better now than later. Move on he doesn't deserve you.
2006-11-04 23:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by jetnet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋