This is just one example. Two different times she asked me what I wanted for Christmas.The 1st time I said a welding machine to which she replied I could use my step dads.The second time I told her a guitar and she said "Youre not getting a damn guitar" I guess she don't know I can take my own money and buy it any time I wanted to.
2006-11-04 14:45:05 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should ask her...."Honey, what do I want for Christmas"...obviously the ***** knows.....and you dont?!!!! lol...
2006-11-04 20:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Envious comes to mind! - she isn't the horrid things people delight in naming her, she is your wife and a thoughtful one at that, but I do agree that there is some discomfort there with you having an interest in music and is likely that she feels threatened by the idea of you having an interest whether it is in music or something else.
This can be a form of controlling behaviour if she is generally like this towards you and doesn't like you being anything other than her husband. The welding machine you wanted her to get you for christmas and her sugesstion of using her dad's may be that she simply wanted to suprise you and perhaps wanted you to say "well let it be a suprise" even though she asked you what you wanted.
But if you want her to get you a guitar fro christmas, then tell her that this is what you would like to have more than anything in the world - see if this is what you get. If you get a functional pair of socks or a spare tyre for your car or something that screams out "controlling" to you, then I think that you could very well be right and then if I were you, buy your own guitar and see her reaction then.
If she cannot accept you as an individual within the relationship, then she is going to be a controlling sort of woman and if you are too afraid of expressing yourself around her, then this isn't healthy and she is the one with the problem. You will then have to let her know how you truly feel and try and encourage her to find an interest of her own, but make it clear that you feel controlled and this isn't what is going to make a successful or happy relationship.
2006-11-04 15:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably has something in mind already, and it isn't a welding machine or guitar. She was probably hoping you could read her mind, but we know you can't. Just tell her whatever and leave it at that. Just hope if you don't like it you can sell it, take it back, or make it disappear. Or perhaps you should ask her what she thinks you want/need for Christmas. Either way, I don't think it has to do with control, just her urge to find you a gift that doesn't annoy her.
2006-11-04 14:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound controlling but, she's definitely a b*tch! "you're not getting a damn guitar" is not a quote of a loving woman. Guitars are awesome. You should get one and one for your wife. My fiance is going to teach me guitar soon so we can get wasted and play music. Buy yourself a guitar and tell your wife to stop acting like a c*nt.
As for the welding machine, you probably could use her step dad's if your family is close. Isn't that a practical mind!
2006-11-04 14:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What if you told her theres' things she can't have, how would she react??? I think maybe she just wants you to save your money and not spend it on things you don't need or can get from someone else. If you really want a guitar and your serious about playing it, then by all means get it. Don't just get it to put in the closet. She should at least get waht you asked for , instead of something she thinks she wants you to have. Give her a list next time and tell her to stick to that.
2006-11-04 14:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by smplylori32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep controlling in a funny way. Why did she even ask?? I think you have something with buying the two gifts for yourself. It would be more than humorous if you bought the welding machine and guitar and put them under the tree marked from Santa.
Ask your wife what she wants for Christmas and than tell her why she cant have it. Your question is too much......very funny!! Take care and enjoy your Christmas. Remember it is about giving not receiving.
God Bless.
2006-11-04 15:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aren't giving the right answers. She is looking for something that she can understand and buy. Women are into touchy feeling....you should know that by now. Men are into practical. Let me illustrate: my friend received a jar opener from her husband. She almost cried...not from happiness. He thought that since he was always being asked to open jars and he's gone so much hunting, then the device would be handy when he's gone. Man sense. Her idea for presents are "diamonds or nice jewelry or the money or gift certificates to buy my own."
Tell her you'd like a nice water proof watch, new bathrobe, something that is more "personal" (in her mind).
2006-11-04 14:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she doesn't consider these gifts personable enough, therefore shooting them down. Maybe she would rather you ask for something more sentimental a keepsake item if you will that you can pass down generation to generation. Anyway I think she is being a bit rude in the manner in which she is not accepting of the items you have told her you wanted. Hope you have a nice holiday and things work out for you.
2006-11-04 15:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to be controlling of sorts as she is probably unaware of her behavior's implications.
Tell her you want a guitar or nothing. That is what you want. If you don't get it a s present you will buy it after Xmas.
Ask her what she wants then tell her no in the same manner using the same analogy, maybe she will get the message.
2006-11-04 14:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by SunGod 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think controlling is the right word. Rudeness is. She needs to respect you more. She did ask you on two different occasions what you would like for Christmas. You need to sit down and communicate with her, in a calm, non-threatening voice, and tell her you expect to be treated better.
2006-11-04 15:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just sounds as if she doesn't like guitars to me So go out and buy your own. IF she is controlling then YOU are the one ALLOWING her to do so.
2006-11-04 18:22:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋