Ladies! How do I get my wife to role play?

Question

I actually dated my wife 10 yrs ago and while she is more open and more communicative in the bedroom than before, she doens't have much of an imagination. Before I met my wife, I was very much into BDSM and role-playing. While the vanilla sex is very good, sometimes I'd like to spice it up a bit. Espeically if she'd take control. Are there any sites I could direct her to in the internet?

Answer 1

Are you looking for just role play or to try things you two have not done yet like anal sex, toys, movies, ect... To role play, I would ask her what turns her on, like a man in a uniform, a boss/secretary, exotic men, ect. Then surprise her with costume/decorated room to the theme. She may be too turned on to turn you down. On the toys/sexual items, you should ask her and NOT surprise her, you might get socked! She should feel comfortable with whatever new things you guys try. If she is a little reluctant, try to push the issue a little because most people are afraid to try new things, but once they do it, they like it. If she is not budging, leave it alone and maybe ask at another time. Good Luck

Answer 2

The best scenario would be for her to talk to someone in person. If she would be willing, she should visit an adult store where they can educate her on BDSM. Plus, there she has a plethora of books and movies to help instruct her. Be careful of directing her to a website, a lot of them connect BDSM with Satan and call it a "frightening move." If anyone suggests a site, make sure you look it over carefully yourself before sending her there.

Answer 3

Listen bills, this is a true story. I know a guy who is big into BDSM. He will date women and feel them out for how vanilla they are or not, then proceed. He won't continue dating a woman who is not into what I call "the game." He just won't. Because women who aren't into it, aren't into it. Your wife knows what you want. If she shows no interest in proceeding, that's it. She's gone as far as she wants to go. This is just from my experience with this lifestyle.

Answer 4

Hmm, you sound like a pretty interesting fellah here. (I gotta watch to see what these 'websites' are you might get/somebody might ship ya in here! lmao.) I wish I was even WITH somebody that had an inkling about what sex was about (let alone getting kinky about things, lol.) Yeah, I am married, but this guy is impotent (and I'll be damned if it isn't MY fault.. hell if I know how tho!) .. your wife's lucky.. you want HER and you want things to spice up too.. (I envy her.)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I think that you should just communicate and talk to her. You need to just come out and tell her how you feel and what you want to do. If she loves you and knows what you want, she may be willing to give it a try.

Answer 7

Whatever you do... take it to her very slowly!

This picture shows something to start with:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karada
but don't bind the arms and hands for starters.

Bondage 101:
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSMinfo/bondage.htm
http://ms.ha.md.us/~tammad/over21/bondage/

Collection of links to tutorials (not all still work):
http://www.massachusettsbondage.com/tutorials/Tutorials.html

Shibari in pictures, very complete:
http://www.japanrope.com/tutorial.html
http://ds-arts.com/RopeArt/tutorials.html

Rope lingerie: breast bondage and crotch rope in pictures
http://www.nawashi.com/tutor/sjm.html
http://www.nawashibari.com/

Very complete, but text only, therefore sometimes difficult to understand:
http://www.bdsm-chicago.com/cram/CRAM_tuts.html

Answer 8

Maybe she does have an imagination and you are not romantic enough to bring it out?

Answer 9

DON'T MAKE HER DO SOMETHING SHE IS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH.YOU WILL NEVER GET HER TO ROLE-PLAY IT;S NOT HER THING. PERSONAL I THINK WHAT YOU ARE ASKING OF HER IS SICK YOU KNEW FROM THE START HOW SHE WAS.WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE REALLY DEEP DOWN LOVE. BEING IN-SIDE HER SHOULD BE ENOUGH FOR YOU

Answer 10

open communication could be used as a sexual stimulate ...open up to her and get aroused ... in turn she may too with you ......