that part of really loving someone...is knowing when to leave??
2006-11-04 14:24:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I believe that a big part of loving and respecting yourself is knowing when to leave.
2006-11-04 14:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you've tried to find a solution, I guess. In my opinion, love isn't worth throwing away unless there's no chance left for happiness
If you've tried working it out and there's nothing left to do and you want to stay with him try counseling. Other than that, if you feel that you need to escape, or whatever the case might be, and that there's no more hope and no more happiness, then leave, I don't know. I'm not sure because I'm the type that says if you're lucky enough to find love than that's worth trying to save. BUT, if you no longer feel comfortable, you have to follow your gut. My only extra advice would be that if you're going to break up with him, to do it in a way that doesn't promote more of the problem, and, if it's the type of problem that's solvable, give him a chance to do that as a friend, not just a lover. Good luck.
2006-11-04 14:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by zea_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love some one and they want you to go then you know
i thin loving some one is about feeling you know the person you love
knowing when to leave them alone or knowing to be there
when they are sad, happy, angry or joyful is all part of knowing your partner and feeling the understanding that one would show you in the same way
if you mean the end or a relationship then the old saying is
if you love some one/ thing set it free
some times it is better to just go and you both will be happy
2006-11-04 18:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Zara3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think part of really loving someone is knowing when it is time to leave, or to leave them alone. If I was with someone and they cheated on me, and couldn't decide who they wanted to be with I think I would take a step back and let them find their own answer. I think loving someone is difficult, and sometimes you need to be able to say enough is enough.
2006-11-04 14:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by chris_morganuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like the relationship isn't going anywhere then yes. You have to know yourself as well as love the other person enough to say "you need someone who will care for you more than I can". You obviouslly care for the person if you don't want them hurt, but your love is more sincere if you can't let them be with someone (you) that doesn't want to stay with them anymore. The longer you wait the harder it would be to leave.
2006-11-05 12:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my late partner, it was definitely a case of 'till death us do part. There, I've said it without weeping.
Just recently, I really "fell" for a charming woman 30 years younger than myself {I'm 62]. She awoke tender feelings that I thought were dead and buried. I do not know if she was gay so thought it best not to cause her possible discomfort and tried as best I could to keep my feelings to my self.
I'm not sure if this fits your question or not.
Kind regards, Rose P.
2006-11-04 14:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as painful as it may be, sometimes you have to leave so they can get on with their life because for whatever reason, you are not the right one for them. It doesn't mean you failed, only that the two of you have differences that can not be resolved.
2006-11-05 01:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by J S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it goes upon the premise of " if you love some one let them go, if they come back to you , then they were yours. if not , they never were". but i will tell you that is a difficult road to travel. reason being is that we all want instantieous results (much like fast food) and to let a loved one go into the unknown leaves me questioning if i made the right desicion.
2006-11-04 14:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by shyboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i had to break up with the love of my life. he was in a bad space and incapable of giving me what i needed. sometimes self respect is more important than love, because you have to love yourself enough to not settle for less than unconditional love and support. it was awful. i still love him, but i'm not in love anymore. he spiralled into drugs and unsafe sex, he became a mess, but he choose his path, and all i can do is wish him happiness.
2006-11-04 19:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I left my ex. He did not love me, so I left. I wanted him to find the same love that I felt for him, but could not return to me.
2006-11-04 14:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋