My husband and i havent been getting along at all.....he says since we got married "i've let myself go" so he hasnt been doing the usual caring stuff like holding my hand or sitting by me when we watch tv...in fact he gets up and moves...i called him on his lunch break the other day and was like how are you? and hes like fine..but you could tell he wasnt so i wa slike well i guess ill let you go and hes like i never wanted you to call anyways! well tonight he said he was going to his single guy freinds...and he went dressed up with cologine on...(which he never wears) and im like...okay and then he leaves at 430 and the game didnt even start til 645....he hasnt bothered to call at all....am i just being overprotective? i really dont like this......!
2006-11-04 14:13:57 · 17 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
before he left for the game i told him id be calling every 5 minutes as a joke and hes like id ont care ill just turn my phone off...
2006-11-04 14:22:01 · update #1
I havent really let myself go we've only been married a little over a month and we've been together a year and 3 months...so i pretty much have stayed constant with it...i dont wear as much amkeup as before but i dont really feel like it...
2006-11-04 14:24:06 · update #2
Something sounds very wrong with this picture. I don't want to jump to conclusions but it sounds like he's seeing someone else.
Just to answer your question: U are not being overprotective and for that matter, u are not overreacting. If something doesn't seem right, chances are it isn't. Trust your instincts.
2006-11-04 14:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't say how long you have been married, not that it really matters, but my dear, you do have a problem. Any guy that is acting cold, telling you that you have let yourself go, and then wear cologne and goes 'out' to the guys place when he never has dressed up before, are clear red flags that there is trouble in paradise. You need to have a sit down talk with him and ask him to lay it all out on the table. You, if you love him, will go to counseling or do whatever it takes, but that you have to communicate honestly. It sounds to me, that he is looking in other directions, and you need to get to the bottom of this. Good luck.
2006-11-04 22:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you have to ask yourself...have you let yourself go? Getting married makes a lot of people fall into a comfort zone with their spouse. You often don't take the time to impress them anymore once you're married and see each other every day, etc. So, maybe if you haven't been keeping yourself up, your husband may be more likely to go and find a woman who still does care about what she looks like. Try acting like you're dating again, when you got cleaned up and wanted to look nice for him. It will go a long way. Good luck!
2006-11-04 22:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by slowfreak 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's cheating to me. First clue, he's told you you've let your self go. second he's leaving 2 hours early for a single friend's house wearing cologne and dressed up to watch a game. Come on get your head out of your butt and face reality, this not normal behavior for a married guy. Dump him, yesterday.
2006-11-04 22:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not over protective. You are concerned that your husband is cheating on you.
Think about yourself. Get a job and get out of the house. Use your money to get your hair done, and buy new clothes, or take a class in something that interests you. Have something to think about other than him.
If he doesn't start showing attention to the new exciting you then it may be time to get yourself your own place.
2006-11-04 22:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by chillsister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being over protective... He is CHEATING on you and you must talk to him about this rather than going on and finding yourself to be in thesame position later on.TALK, OPEN -UP, COMMUNICATE...COMMUNICATION is the BEST and the FIRST step to go at this point, then if it still has not changed,then you should THINK and RE-ASSES the relationship if it is worth saving or better to let go... Even if you have children, having them is not an excuse to go on and suffer just to be with the father of the kids. Life is short and to be living in misery is not a good thought...Wake-up to reality of life and learn to accept things that you cannot change...Be strong...
2006-11-04 22:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by pinky c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reading this is painful because from what I see, it is already over. Trying to reestablish something that has gone away is generally futile. If you know in your heart you do not have the 100% trust, then what do you have? Sit him down and make him put his cards on the table. Why wait? The truth is the truth and you need to know what it is (even though you can feel it right now).
2006-11-04 23:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
+sounds like he doesnt wanna be with you anymore and hes trying to be distant more and more...leave him tell him u wanna divorce u arent being overprotective! u are just noticing things hes starting to do to you...leave him before he cheats on you! thats if he hasnt already specially since he left at 430 and the game doesnt start till 645 y would he have to leave 2 hours earlier anyways....
2006-11-04 22:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so obvious what he's doing...and I hate to be negative, but I been there, and I'm sure alot of other women been there too...He tells you that you let yourself go to make excuses in his own mind to justify his own actions..He is having an affair...the signs are right in front of your face..anytime a man pulls himself away and starts to treat you differently..9 times out of 10 another woman is involved..i hate to say it, but it's the truth..I will tell you to keep a close eye and start looking for evidence...Don't trust it..or anything he says...Well I wish the best for you..good Luck
2006-11-04 22:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no reason that your husband should be dressing up or wearing cologne for a game out with the guys. he's cheating on you. take it from me, i know this from personal experience. his not touching you or wanting to be near you because you "let yourself go" is an excuse because he is seeing someone else. call him and see what he is doing. if he isn't up to anything funny, he will answer. watch him very closely.
2006-11-04 22:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well he is looking for someone else or he has someone else.plus he told you that you have let yourself go since you and him got married. that's because he has seen a girl or woman that looked nice and either he is in a relationship with her or he is looking for someone. this is what you need to do .go put on some nice clothes fix your hair put on some make up and wait for him to get home.. and that will let him see that you can stay home and look nice. good luck.
2006-11-04 22:23:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋